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Its about my boyfriend :(
Ok so I met my boy friend when I was 15 just abot to turn 16 and anyways I fell inlove, I know it maybe puppy love but it didnt feel like it at the time, anyway about 5 months into our realation ship I had a "best friend" who came over everyday without fail and i use to ask him why he always sent me to like the shops or constantly saying oh go see your family, iv now been with him almost 3 years and it turns out that 6 months straight in our realationship he had been cheating and he always used to flirt with all my friends, now that hes scared of losing me he says he loves me, whats your honest oppinion?? What do I do it plays over in my mind 24/7 and always in my dreams :"( oh and im now 18
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I have been in your situation and I know how hard it is and it sucks so i'm sorry :(
In my situation we had been dating about a year when I found out and he was my very first love, it honestly broke my heart when I found out he had been cheating. The thing is, once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. i know that sounds harsh but it's true. Once a guy knows he can get away with it when he is with you, that will just give him more reason to keep doing it, and next time he will be even more sneaky. I know he says he loves you but if he actually loved you as much as you love him he would not have done that to you and hurt you like that and put you in that situation. My opinion, dump him, don't let him hurt you anymore.
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I understand how you feel. I've been cheated on numerous times and I made the mistake once of forgiving him, and then in my next relationship it happened again. Once a cheater, always a cheater. There is no excuse for cheating, and just because he says he loves you, doesn't really mean that he actually means it because if he loved you like he says he does and that he doesn't want to lose you, he wouldn't have been cheating on you in the first place and he wouldn't have been flirting with your friends. There are plenty of fish in the sea and I think it's about time you started fishing. It's going to be on your mind for a while, but in reality, you'll never be fully happy or able to trust him completely, if at all, ever again. It's better to move on, you're still young and you have your whole life ahead of you, don't waste it on someone who doesn't appreciate you. All you can do is let the pain come, talk to your friends, vent, maybe even seek out a therapist, cry, eat chocolate, go out and have fun... The dreams will eventually stop, and wanting him will fade too, trust me, know. Youre not alone and you dont need him, I just takes some time. Don't worry, :)
Hope I helped, xxo !
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