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Someone talk some sense into me please i have baby fever!
Hi there ladies or gentlemen i need some serious help and talking to, so if you have to you can be as harsh as you need to because i need some sense knocked into my head asap! i'm a 19 year old young lady and me and my boyfriend have been together for a while, but regardless of how long we have been together i should not be thinking about having a child at age 19! This is just ridiculous and insane that i'm thinking like this. I'm very smart and i know the consequences and what it takes to care for an actual baby. i take my birth control pills faithfully so i'm in no way trying to get pregnant or even risk pregnancy. i think this came out of nowhere because a few of my friends just had their baby and one of my friends are pregnant i'm just like wow; in disbelief that my friends are having babies at such young ages and they're not even done with school o.O As i scroll through facebook i see cute baby pictures and statuses saying how they love being a mom, and how the feeling of being a mom is incredible. Having a baby sounds nice, i'm the oldest in my family and i want to be the first one to give my mom her first grandchild; but of course i want to do it the RIGHT way. finish school with a bachelors in nursing i might go for masters, spoil myself with the money i make do what i want like travel and experience cool stuff whether it's before i get married or after. THEN think about having a child. but i cant get it off my mind right now is the only problem, i hate thinking about this. i hate it!
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You're both too young and despite if you agree with needing to be married or not, there have been studies shown that babies born out of wedlock are more likely to live in high poverty.
Plus, you two have only been together for a year. I won't lie, that's not a long time. People these days are getting married way too quickly, one year is hardly long enough to get married, plus have a baby.
Just remember you're right with everything you believe in. Keep taking your birthcontrol, you both have education ahead of you. If you are perusing college or in college, you wont be able to continue to do college, work, and raise a child, and if you do you will have to compromise a lot of things in your life.
It's better to have a baby when you're financially and emotionally ready.
I don't know if you are but I can only assume since you're 19 that you couldn't possibly be.
I don't mean this in a mean way either,
so many of my peers have got pregnant and I'm 21 and a senior in college -- I don't think any of them planned it and despite the out come of having a child and loving it, you want to be able to give your child the BEST life you can, so I personally think that means going to school, getting an education and being able to support your child when the time is right :)
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