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I cry everyday, im really frustrated & feel irrelevent to the world
how can i deal with the frustration of having a ridiculously hard time with finding a job. I have no help and my life is fading. "Friends" dont call me anymore, family gave up on me and im single so i dont really have sombody to talk to. Im lonely and broke and i feel like a failure. I know that eventually my life will come back, but its already been 2 years. im only 24 and i feel like a bum. I dont know wut to do, where to go or how to feel. I've been a emotional wreck. im a pretty girl, and i have so much talent and potential. i dont understand why im in this position for so long. its just no movement in my life whatsoever.. its driving me crazy, litterally... i just really need some encouraging words or somthing
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OK " I cry everyday...." I'm going to be brutal with you for your own good..... get yourself by your bootstraps and get up. First go get a shower, then get dressed nice and go get a job.... Even if it's at McDonald's flipping burgers, it's a start!!!!! Next, Stop sitting around the house expecting life to just happen for you!!! Go out and get it!! So what if your family don't call you everyday, How long has it been since you called them? Are you doing your part in the relationship or are you milking them dry? Use your talents... use them for the betterment of society. Don't require pay. Use them just to make yourself feel productive. Go to your local Nursing Home or Homeless Shelter.... look at those less fortunate than yourself and stop whining. It's up to you to make a difference in society. God has blessed you with gifts and talents. Use them and you will soon see a change in your own outlook. You'll see that when you focus on the activity the results will come to you. but if you are focused on the results and never doing the activity... you'll never get anywhere. What's the definition of insanity...Doing the same exact things over and over and over and expecting a different result. Good luck.
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Hi there,
It is amazing the way adversity shows you who your friends are, isn't it? This is something I have been through a few times now, and it never ceases to amaze me how very useless people who claimed to be friends are when things get out of hand in your life.
Just remember this... don't hold it against them, just remember in the future, when your life is back on track that while they may go to the movies with you or something, you can't count on them in a bind. This way, if you are ever in a pinch again, you will not feel as bad about their character, simply because you were expecting it. That helped me a lot.
Two years, eh? Amazing how hard it is to run in place like that for so long, isn't it?
I don't think anyone who hasn't been in that position can truly understand the unique kind of stress you are under, and I believe that THIS is the reason people don't respond when you try and talk with them about it. They just don't get what this feels like, they can't understand why you feel this way and their input ends up being non-existent or really unhelpful.
Here is what I can tell you from experience as far as getting on track:
1) Sometimes a change of scenery is a good thing. You could consider looking for jobs outside of your current area.
2) DO NOT change scenery without a plan. I have seen people move across the country for a job, and not even have the job for sure, no place to live and nobody to fall back on.
Most of all, you need someone to talk to about all of this. The inability to vent all these feelings is what is building that stress inside you. You will be amazed how much better you will feel if you can just unload once in a while. :-)
I suggest you find a counselor and set up an appointment. There are some with sliding scales, so the money won't be an issue, most likely.
Depending on what you are interested in doing for a living, and the opportunities that do, or do not, exist in your chosen field, I may be able to help you find work, or at least point you in the right direction.
Even if you just feel the need to talk to someone who knows what this is all like, from experience, then please reach out and contact me.
DangerNerd@gmail.com
I am also available for text or voice on Skype, using the same address.
At this point, I know it feels like forever... but it isn't, and things will improve as long as you don't give up hope, and you make the effort when you get the break.
It is easy to give up, and terribly tempting at times, but you have a future... and when you look back on where you are now, you will feel stupid about stressing so much about certain things. Trust me, I know. :-)
Hope to hear from you.
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