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PROM PROBLEMS: How do I tell my twin sister that the guy she is counting on to ask her... isn't going to?
My twin sister and I are very good friends with this boy Sam.
I am actually very close with him, and introduced them. I thought they liked each other more than friends, and she was very happy.
Prom is coming up. She thought maybe he would ask her. I told her he DENFITELY would. i thought they had hit it off...
anyway, I got her hopes high.
and yesterday I talked to him, he totatllyyy doesn't see her like that, and said he FOR SURE is not asking her.
He didn't mean this meanly, i don't want him to come off like adick. but my twin is counting on him to ask her...and he isn't going to.
How do i tell her this??
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Look, it seems as if this guy is a major issue for the two of you. All of this drama and confusion needs to stop. This is what needs to happen: The three of you need to sit down together and talk about all of this. It's the mature thing to do. Sit down. Talk. Get everything out. Figure out exactly what everyone is thinking. None of this stuff is earth-shattering. It shouldn't be an issue, but it is because no one is talking to anyone else. The three of you have to figure this out. The worst thing in the world would be if this guy got between you and your sister and ruined the relationship that you have with the closest person in your life. It's not like he's doing this on purpose, but his existence is making your relationship with your sister more difficult than it should be. I'm not saying you have to get rid of him, but the three of you MUST talk about this like adults. Figure out what's going on and just end the drama now. There's no need for all of this. All you have to do is talk. It may seem like the hardest thing in the world when you're a teenager, but it's absolutely the option that will have the best results. Organize this as soon as possible. It may be awkward at first but all of you will feel sooo much better once this happens. This situation is either going to end in anger, fighting, yelling, and pain or you can solve things now by simply talking. Trust me, this is going to get much worse if you don't figure it out now. Good luck!
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It isn't going to be easy but it's better she know than to be crushed later when she has NO date not just him that asked her or she could have considered.
Tell her straight-up that you don't want her to get hurt and that he didn't either. Let her know he had no idea how to tell her without hurting her and never wanted that. Let her know that he values her as a friend but the attraction you both thought he had for her just isn't there and that he's told you that he won't be asking her for prom.
He should say this but is let's put it this way a bit of a coward putting it on you. Your twin trusts you so you can help her the most and try to salvage the prom with someone else perhaps a friend she can just have fun with. It may not be the same but at least all won't be ruined where it could have if she held out for him and nobody told her the truth.
If it were me and I was her and you had such information I would want you to tell me no matter what and would be downright pissed if you didn't and I missed prom when I may have been able to snag someone else. More or less if you don't tell her you'll be in a lot of shit lasting for a long time. You simply have to.
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