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He was joking about getting married right?
So I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks. We have a lot in common and we seem to get along pretty great. We have some crazy similarities that are just like really rare as far finding somebody else who shares those traits with you goes.
Well today we were messaging when my mom started screaming and insulting me for no reason (read previous question if you want to know more but it's really long) and it seemed like every 30 minutes she would start screaming about something else and it got to the point where I explained to him why I kept having to brb and he laughed about it at first because it was sort of ridiculous.
Then we got to talking about his family and his mom who's a little crazy too so he understood. Later I was getting really upset about her and he said something about him wanting me to come stay with him to get away from her and that he would hide me (jokingly). Well it went from that to me talking about making some grand escape (only half joking) and then he asked me why I didn't just find a wealthy man and marry him and make a happy life for me and him and not have to concern myself with her problems. I laughed and told him because wealthy men only want girls with double D's and bleach blonde hair. He responded with "Not this wealthy guy." which turned into a conversation about him marrying me and how I would get along with his family and how we had so many similarities that we would be perfect. I thought the whole conversation was just a sweet and silly little knick knack kind of thing.
We kept talking off and on throughout the day (for most of the day) but the whole marriage thing kept coming back up but I still treated it like it was our little inside joke for the day thing. Before he went to bed though it came back up again and he said I should as a joke tell my dad that we were getting married so I said okay and posted on my fathers wall that he wanted me to tell him that he was going to marry me but I followed the comment with "lol" because it WAS a joke. Then he (my friend) said now we should really follow through and get married to make the joke complete.
So I said "Deal" and then he after making back and forth comments debating him leaving and several silly compliments later he was like "Bye my wifey to be" so going along with it I said "Bye husband 2 be" and then he sent me a heart and logged off.
He WAS joking right? You don't think he really might have been serious do you? I mean we really get along and we compliment each other all the time and like I said we have insane similarities but now I'm a little scared he thought I was being legit like I would really marry him. I wouldn't be over thinking this stuff but the religion that we share kind of promotes getting married quickly and early. >.>
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I do not believe anyone of us can really tell you what he believes or is thinking. This is a question you have to ask him.
Regardless of what he may be thinking you also have to take into consideration the laws of the state you live in. Your religion might promote early marriage, which is fine as far as that may go. If you live in the USA you have to abide by the laws as they are set down to protect young people. Every State has slightly different laws but they all have laws as to how young people can be when they marry and even how young they can be and marry with parental permission.
Fact is that within your religious community you may be able to marry and be seen as married in the eyes of God. In the eyes of the law if you are under age you legally cannot marry and would not have any of the legal benefits of a married couple.
Unfortunately my answer is: I do not have an answer to your question. You have to ask him if he meant what he said. If you are agreeable to his proposal you then, if either or both of you are under 18, have to check the laws in your state to see at what age you two can legally marry.
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