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My boyfriend says he doesn't know if he believes in God
When I recently asked my boyfriend of six months if he'd pray about something that had happened in our lives, he said that he didn't pray. I was floored! I asked him if he believed in God and after a hesitation he said that he wasn't too sure about that. How has this not been addressed? I certainly do not think that everyone has to believe the way that I do, but I can't wrap my mind around the fact that he may NOT believe at all. Everything else about our relationship is ideal ... but how do I deal with this? Is this my chance to share the love that my God has?
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No, it is not your chance to do anything.
He believes what he believes. It's not your job to change that, whatever your religion says otherwise. The fact is that he has a right to his beliefs just as you have a right to yours and it is disrespectful to "share God's love".
Accept it or break up with him over it, THAT part is your right, and if you can't be with someone who does not share your beliefs better to end it now. But unless he himself wants to find God it is not your job, your responsibility, or your right to try to bring him around.
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If everything else is ideal leave this alone. No matter what you share with him you won't change his beliefs on religion at all. Not everyone has to believe what you do and his not believing shouldn't kill the relationship. If it did it means there's a lot wrong about it to start with.
This is NOT a big deal. All it means is that he's rejected teachings about GOD that he has been given and questions the whole concept. A lot of people do and have. Embrace who this guy is and lay off the religion thing.
Secondly, I hate to break it you but your God ain't the be all and end all God. Everyone believes differently and there are multiple faiths. If you start shoving your belief system on him or inadvertently down his throat you are going to really piss him off.
You can share God's love, qualities etc. in a multitude of ways by expressing them to everyone not just him and reflecting them and practicing what you were taught without placing a religious connection on them. You can tell him what you believe (once) and leave it to him to explore or not.
No big deal. No matter what it should not change your love for anyone. If it does there is a problem and it's not with him. Everybody has different beliefs and you'll find it with a lot of people you date that aren't believing what you do. You have to accept that person or find someone else that does. It's really such a miniscule problem in your relationship that you shouldn't blow up bigger.
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You MUST NOT try and share the love of god with him. Religious views are in no way fact, only opinion. That's why its called "faith", because you don't know for sure, but you would love to believe its true. If he doesn't believe in god, don't shove it down his throat, you'll just chase him away. Trust me, last thing he wants to hear is that he's going to Hell if he doesn't pray to a person he can't see or hear. Now, as far as the relationship goes, this doesn't have to ruin anything! You said your relationship is ideal in every other manner, so keep it that way! Don't focus so hard on the negative. I know the Bible says to share your faith and so forth, but no one wants to hear it. If they don't believe, they don't believe. No one can make anyone believe anything. I'm an ex-believer and I get irritable when someone preaches at me. You may invite him to church if you think it won't bother him, but PLEASE don't ruin the relationship by pushing a god that may or may not be real in his face. How do you deal with this? You don't. Just move on, there's one thing you guys don't agree on, there will be plenty more down the road. No one says you have to have EVERYTHING in common to be in a relationship with someone.
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