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hes leaving to college and i dont know how to say what i feel about him
Hey . My name is Stephanie im 16. I'm fallinq hard for a guy (he's 18) I've know him for about 6 years but started actually being friends for 2. When summer began about 3 months ago we started hanging out & going to the movies, he would take me bowlinq & we went to knotts berry farm together & stuff . We met because we go to the same church & our parents are friends so after church we always get to go out and eat all together as a big group and its great ! One time when we went to the movies we started holdinq hands and we kissed , he told me he liked me& I liked him and now every time we go out its the same he kisses me & we act like a couple ..People are always saying were a cute couple but actually he hasn't asked me out & I really wish he did ! We were in line for a ride & he didn't want to get on & I told him he should go sit then & he said " no I wanna be here with my friend " & he just kissed me In my mind I was like "just friend ?:(" also anothe r problem is he leaves to college in 4 weeks ( his school is 2 hours away) & I'm reallly fallinq in love with hiim I.have never felt this way for AnyOne .. he keeps sayinq we have a lot to tlk about but were hardly have alone time & when we do I'm scared what he's gonna say will hurt me he says the last thing he wants to do is hurt me & I asked him thrue txt what's gonna happen when he leaves and he said said that well be far but there's txt callinq& skype & that he atleast wanted to stay friends It hurt that he said he wanted to stay friends because that's what we are RIGHt Know ! :( he will be coming once in a while on weekeneds but I don't care how far away he is I just really would like to be officially in a relationship with him knowing he my boyfriend <33 but idk what to say or do I neeed Help ! !:(
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It seems like the relationship has just had bad timing. From what you've said, it's clear to me that he doesn't want to start a relationship with you because you won't be able to be together. Yes there is skype and everything, but for some people, it's really important to be able to be together and have a physical connection. I know that you want to try having a relationship with him. You're probably looking for advice on how to talk him into it. Unfortunately, this wouldn't be a good idea. If you can get him to be in a relationship with you he might end up cheating on you and even if that doesn't happen, the relationship probably won't last and it probably won't be a healthy one.
You definitely need to talk to him about what he wants and what's going to happen, though. Maybe he's just afraid and he really does want to be in a relationship with you. You absolutely have to tell him that he's being ridiculous by saying that the two of you are just friends. You may not be in an official, exclusive relationship, but you definitely have a romantic relationship. Tell him that even if it's not going to last because he's going away that it hurts you when he says that you're just friends. You're not just friends and he needs to be honest with himself about that. Tell him that he needs to stop playing with your feelings and using you. If he's really just going to go away to college, it's not fair to you for him to continue being romantic and leading you on. He should respect you more than that.
Even though you probably won't listen and it's going to be hard because you do have feelings for him, this is not a good time and these aren't good circumstances to start a relationship. My advice to you is to let him go and let him have a year in college. Like I said, it seems like that is what he wants. It's not what you want, but you really don't want to push him or things could turn out badly. Don't break contact with him, but be careful that you're just being a friend instead of coming off like you're still longing for a relationship. If you can't just be a friend, it's better to stop talking to him. Let him have his space. It's going to suck, but after his year in college, talk to him and see where things stand. If you still have feelings for him at that point, tell him. At any point he may change his mind and he may want to be with you. Right now though, it really seems like he doesn't.
Even though you may love him and think he isn't doing anything wrong, he really is. He's being extremely selfish and insensitive to your feelings. That needs to stop and you need to know what he wants either way. If he really cares for you he can't keep treating you like some bimbo friend with benefits that'll make out with him whenever he wants that he doesn't have to be in a relationship with. You're way more valuable than that. Make him be a man about this. Best of luck.
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