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Is it okay that at 18 I still "daydream" a lot?
I wouldn't call it daydreaming but ever since I can remember I've had different "life scenarios" playing out in my mind at night when I can't fall asleep or during times when I was really bored.
I can focus fine on the world around me and I've actually done pretty great with life so far. I graduated with honors,an entire binder full of awards,two technology certifications and other random things. The only problems I'm having right now are with finding a job so soon out of high school but I figure I'll get one sooner or later.
I just feel like I should have stopped this by now.
They aren't normal daydreaming about boyfriends and such. They're like entire story lines with intricate details with some elements taken from my favorite books or movies. I'll have the main person which is usually "me" but with different characteristics based on what I think I would want to look like/the abilities I would want to have if I were in that setting. Then the surrounding characters,some also taken from books and others that I completely make up with entire very detailed life stories.
I even reserve time to think them out at night. Like I'll say well its 1am now if I get into bed and listen to music I can "daydream" for two hours and go to sleep at 3.
I'm perfectly normal the rest of the time though. I've never told anybody about them before so people think I'm just this normal intelligent pretty girl who's just like anybody else and the only times I obsess on these "daydreams" is when I'm to upset with something going on in my life and I use them to calm me down and get my mind off of whatever it is.
I CAN stop doing it but not for long. I mean there's been times where I was so preoccupied with life I didn't think about them for a week or more but I always come back to it eventually. It's like a part of me I can't get rid of.
Do you think since is hasn't really affected my life that I shouldn't worry about it?
I don't want to go to a psychiatrist because I know they're going to tell me I'm schizophrenic or have a dissociative disorder and put me on some sort of medication that will dumb me down and label me as "mentally unstable" when I'm really fine except for the daydreams and the last thing I need right now is all of my family and friends thinking I'm a nutcase when I'm not.
What do you think I should do about this?
I mean I'm not hurting anybody or anything so does it really matter what I daydream about?
Should I be happy I have something in my mind to escape to while leading a normal life when others break down and become depressed and suicidal or worse?
Sometimes when I look at the big picture I think "Isn't this what authors all around the world do?" They create stories in their mind with plots and characters and lots of details like me except they sell their stories. Especially authors like Agatha Christie who have something like 87 books,she must be doing what I'm doing constantly right? So is there anything even really wrong with me?
I can actually write really well btw (I've received awards from the national library of poetry).
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I'm almost 20 and I still "daydream" like that. I'm definitely not schizophrenic. Its called having a creative mind that's prone to boredom. So you create a new reality for yourself. Don't believe everything you hear; that doesn't make you crazy. You said you can write well, so start keeping a journal or something. You don't need help or any kind of therapy, you just need something to keep you from getting so preoccupied with your thoughts.
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I see nothing wrong with dreams in general as long as they do not take up all of your waking hours. Dreams are how we motivate ourselves. Dreams are how we come to ponder the universe and new ideas. I would say many inventions ans innovations started as someones day dreams So as long as they are kept in the proper prospective I would say dream on.
I will add that given your high school scholastic ability I would like you to dream of ways to get into college. AS you are finding it is a tough job market out there. Those jobs generally available to the non college graduate are being filled by College graduates. Even College Graduates with AA degrees from Community Colleges.
You appear to be an intelligent person so put yourself in the place of an employer for a moment. You have two applicants for one position. Both appear to be equally qualified. One has a college degree the other only a high school diploma. Which one will you hire?
Having been in that position I will tell you I hired the college graduate. Why? Simple, even though the position was an entry level position I am looking to grow my business. To do this I need people that will learn my business and grow with it. In that circumstance the college graduate makes the better choice.
For now the job market is to my advantage as an employer. I have the opportunity to hire a person I would, in past job markets, never been able to afford at this point in my business.
This is why I am suggesting you dream of a way of getting at least a two year degree from your local community college. Financial help is available if you needed it. Ask about it at the registrar's office.
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