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I just want it all to end. Do I have problems? Do I need help?
Hi,Im Jazz a 14year old female,who has alot of different problems in her life.
First off every since I was about 7 or 8 my parents would argue alot.They would try to go into another room so we couldnt hear but we always did.I would always go to my room and cry because I hate arguing.It got so bad they werre planning to leave eachother.They would ask me and my older brother who we want to have custody of us,which would just start another arguement and me crying again.
Then maybe a few months later I went to school one day,and the teacher told me my bff died.Then a few months after that my grandad who I loved very much died.I would cry at the thought of him.
The arguing got worst.They hated eachother.And one day I went to my dad and he was crying.That really broke me.
But thats not even the worst part of everything.A year after the arguing everything was going great.The arguing stopped and I guess they loved eachother again.
But when I was twelve everything changed for the worst.I had started self injurying myself anyway I could.I would stab myself burn myself and other things.But the worst part was the cutting.I would cut almost everday.Why?
Because I was stressed out or depressed as people say I am.So cutting helped alot.It started off with one cut and me saying I wont do it again but I did.And it quickly became my addiction.I did it almost everday.
Then I stopped eating about five months ago.I havent lost alot of weight if you ask me.
Now comes the part where on top of all of my problems my mom expects meto be perfect.If I dont get on the honor roll Im not trying my hardest.If one grade slips Im on punishment.If my rooms not squeky clean Im on punishment.If I dont wanna be a nurse Im wasting my life.
Just because I love rock,heavymetal,death metal,screamo and music like that Im demonic.
And to top it off I planned how to kill myself tons of times but never did.
Do I have rpoblems?Should I get help?
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ima 13 yr old female my familys the same way i cut evey day starting when i was 11 and you can never be perfect.yea my parents think im demonic becouse i like that kind of music but its what i like and has nohting to do with self harm.its dangerous and hard to stop.go to a therapist,i thi that would be soo good for you to let it all out and help solve your problems.do your parents know about your problem?email me for support if you think ittl help,but therapy and mayby telling some one would probably help yu a lot.you like black veiled brides?their anti self harm some of their songs will calm you down their metal try listening to bvb carolyn it kinda helps
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Yes you need help. While I am not a doctor I am someone that has been recovering from depression for quite sometime. Your cutting and suicidal ideation are signs of depression.
Depression is a terrible thing. You are already in pain and being depressed causes you to see things not exactly as they may be. So most definitely you need professional help.
There are three ways you can get help.
The first way is of course to ask mom or dad to take you to your doctor to be screened for depression. The doctor will ask you a series of questions. Answer them truthfully. Tell the doctor about the cutting and show the doctor where you have been cutting.
The second way is by Federal Law you do not need parental permission to make an appointment to see a doctor and you may see the doctor in total confidentiality. Meaning your parents wait in the waiting room so that you can speak to the doctor in private. Anything you tell the doctor, whatever the doctor treats you for remains between you and the doctor. No one can be told of the why or what of any visit or treatment without your written consent.
This law known as HIPPA, was passed primarily so that young people would seek treatment for their reproductive systems when needed. The wording of the law does allow for a wide spectrum of doctor visits by young people to doctors with total confidentiality and you need is covered under this law.
The third way is the most important way. It is also the fastest way and you are still covered under HIPPA as are those that respond.
The next time you pick up a knife to cut yourself DON'T DO IT. CALL 911 INSTEAD AND ASK FOR HELP. Tell them you have been cutting yourself and you feel like cutting yourself now. Help will be sent to you.
Every area handles these calls differently. Most likely they will send a fire truck, ambulance and the police to where ever you are. DO NOT BE UP SET THAT THE POLICE ARE BEING SENT. THEY ARE BEING SENT TO PROTECT YOU AND SEE TO IT YOU GET LOOK AT AND TREATED BY THE FIRFIGHTERS AND MEDICS.
The police will not allow mom and dad to turn the fire department medic on the fire truck or the medics on the ambulance away without examining you. If they say you need to see a doctor then that is what will happen and your parents cannot stop them. That is why the police are being sent. To protect you and your rights to be treated so make sure everyone from the call take to the medical people sent know you are 14.
If you feel like you need to cut then dial 911 now.
I know you are hurting. Depression hurts. With proper treatment you will get better I can assure you of that. Private message me and let me know how you are doing. If you need a friend while you are learning to control your depression I can be here for you if you want. I will warn you though I am old enough to be your grandfather. If you don't mind talking with someone my age then I am more than willing to be there for you.
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You sound pretty mixed-up. OK. Demanding parents who expect a lot, well. Not that uncommon. They maybe push too hard, but doting parents who spoil you, tell you you're great even when you're not doing that great? That won't set you up for the world outside home & family. So give & take. Death of loved ones & family. That's gonna hurt all your life. You won't get used to that so it doesn't touch you. And you shouldn't. Parents marriage going through a rough patch for a while? Well, a year to an adult couple isn't as long as a year sounds to you right now. I can't explain how or why that is. But it's true. You'll find the same, and you won't 'get it' either! It is just a patch to them. Sometimes differences can't be worked-out and couples split. But you're not causing this. Be patient a while longer. Music? I loved Led Zeppelin in my teens, but I didn't grow a pair of horns! Now. The self-harming and eating stuff and the suicidal thoughts. That's gotta stop Jazz. NOW! Do your parents know, or have you hidden it well? Sit down, speak to them. Don't have a tantrum like a silly little girl. Show them you're growing up. If you don't get anywhere you've got to find a doctor. He can arrange any treatment or counselling necessary. You're sensible enough to recognise addiction. Every time I have a smoke I say It's the last...but I haven't quit yet! Sort it out Jazz!!!
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