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Anxieties of sex
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now and we just started having sex. It seem though that every time we have sex I build up with worry and anxieties of the possibility of getting pregnant. We use protection and spermicide but it doesn't seem to cut my worrying. I'm only two years younger than him, but I still feel like I'm too young for kids if anything backfires. I love him and I trust him but I just can't relieve the constant worry after we have sex. What can I do to help with these anxieties?
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Welcome to the wonderful world of sexual intercourse. I don't mean to make light of your question; your normal for an unmarried woman and since you did not give your age. All teenagers that engage in sexual intercourse.
Other than total abstinence there is not much you can do about these worries. They will always be their; even when you are married and may not yet be ready or wanting of, another, a child.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to make sure you are taking the proper precautions to prevent unwanted pregnancy. Condoms and spermicides are effective forms of prevention but they are not 100%, no birth control is. They are also not as good as if you were on the pill or some of the other forms of birth control. Also the spermicide causes coitus interruptus as it needs to be inserted just prior to intercourse.
If I assume you are a teenager and using the birth control methods you are using, as they are available over the counter without parental permission to purchase. Then the you may find the following information help full.
If you are over 14 years of age you can seek birth control from a doctor or clinic without parental permission. Under a federal law once a teenager reaches the age of 14 he or she may see any doctor for any reason relating to their sexual reproductive system without perental permission.
For you this means you can make appointments to see a gynecologist without moms permission. Be treated by the doctor without mom being in the exam room and the doctor can not tell mom what you have been seen for, treated for or prescribed for without your written permission.
The law is known as HIPPA: Health Information Personal Protection Act. The specific section on teenage sexual reproduction systems was written so that young women mostly would see a doctor and have the confidentiality needed to tell the doctor or answer the doctor in total truth when they need to. This can only be done if mom or dad is in the waiting room. To be totally frank a parent can stand on their head and make the biggest scene ever, the doctor cannot release any information without your written permission. To do so the doctor faces not only the loss of their medical license but 5 years in jail.
So long way to end of story. Birth control pills would be available to you if you are 14 years of age or older and your doctor has no medical reason not to prescribe them. The pharmacy must fill the prescription and even they cannot release information as to what the prescription is for.
You should still insist that the boy use a condom as a second line of defence as well as protection from some of the STDS that condoms can protect you from.
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