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Hi everyone so I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 months ( i am 16 and he just turned 19) and we have not had sex and we both want too. But neither of us try. We've been friends for a few years but I am very very self conscience of myself. I don't know why but I am. How do I build up confidence in myself? And one other thing which I know is strange and bizarre but you know how some girls shave everything off? Well... What do girls do with their butt ... Hole... Hair? Do u shave that too? I don't know how to word that with out sounding like a Moron or disgusting .. Sorry! But please help me!
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Re. Answer.The age of consent in the UK is 16.Always has been.Having sex with an older guy certainly isn't rape here. Re. YOU: I figure you're self-conscious BECAUSE you're old friends. And I'll bet it's the same with him. We've got a saying here. 'Never lovers...ever friends.' Now you've suddenly got to be hot and sexy. And he's got to come on all manly. It'd be easier with someone you've just met for sure. But it'll almost certainly feel more special with that old mate you know & trust. Getting over it? Well, you've got to sit down and admit you've got the hots for each other..badly. And go for it! As for the hair thing. Go to a salon and get the full wax. Front and back. If you hate it, it'll grow back anyhow. Bet your guy'll LOVE IT!
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I cannot answer your question though I so want to offer you something to think about.
In most places in this world and most states in the U.S. you are under the age of consent. Meaning you cannot consent to having sex with this man. I have purposely used the word man because he is an adult. To engage in any sexual activity with him would put him in a dire legal situation called statutory rape. Anyone could report him not just your parents and he could, depending on the state you live in, face up to life in prison.
some states do have what is called an age exception to protect him, most do not.
If by chance you happen to live near the border of your state with another. The simple act of you two crossing the board for any innocent reason also puts him in peril as a federal law called the Mann act is being violated. The law reads taking a minor across the border for purpose of illicit reasons. Fact is they do not have to prove any illicit act was done, they can simply infer it and obtain a conviction.
This is the problems of dating some one over the age of 18 by someone under the age of consent and under the age of 18 as well as some states the age of consent is also the age of majority which is 18.
Have the laws fallen behind the times. I really can't say. I do think that someone 19 should be able to find someone within his own age group to date and not subject himself to the perils of dating an under age girl. When I was a teenager we were all well versed in the perils of dating an under age girl.
Given all that is being reported to day about pedophiles one has to wonder about anyone that dates so much younger than them selves at this age group. This has nothing to do with the 3 year difference in age. If you were 18 and he 21 no one would say a thing. But you are 16 and he is 19 and that makes for many questions.
It is also understood that as a female you are more mature than a boy your same age by about 2 years. When you factor this in to what this is all about it is understandable that a 19 year old would be more attractive to you than a 16 or 17 year old.
To sum up what I am saying here is. Before you take any further steps in your relationship with this person you have to give legitimate pause to the legal peril he will face if anyone should report your relations. Also you need to give serious consideration as to why he wants to have sex with you and not someone his own age. Meaning is he a pedophile in the making.
Just something I felt you needed to know to protect yourself.
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