I've been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months and can honestly say that I would like to lose my virginity to him. We've done everything but sex, and we've discussed protection and such for when the time comes. It will be his first time as well. I'm at the point where I think I'm ready but I'd just a little bit of advice on what to expect, making sure you're prepared, etc.
Also, we haven't said the L-word yet, and I'd really like to before we have sex. I do honestly love him but I'm nervous about taking that step and telling him so.
Any advice would be much appreciated! Thanks so much!
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Sexual Health and Reproduction category? Maybe give some free advice about: Virginity? rainhorse68 answered Wednesday August 15 2012, 3:32 am: Being prepared emotionally is the key. You'll see your boyfriend in a different light. The act often appears agressive or brutal to girls at first. It's certainly very physical. Arousal and agressive reactions are similar in guys in some ways. You should enjoy him being quite forceful and showing how much he 'wants you' after a while. But it might be a bit of a shock at first! There's always the painful/some blood loss fear. OK, you might have a bit of both, or you might not. Just keep in mind you're not damaging or abusing your body in any way. You're just 'losing your cherry.' Like all sexually active women did at one time. When it comes to it, make sure he spends lots of time on foreplay first and makes a real fuss of you. You want to be nice and wet and ready. You'll no doubt be mentally wound tight, but try to let your body relax. You've discussed protection, so great! You'll probably feel pretty emotional afterwards. You might want him close, or you might be sort of mad at him and want some space. You could mention that to him before you start. Hope you personally have a good experience. If its not so good...you won't be the first or the last...don't let it put you off either having sex, or him! [ rainhorse68's advice column | Ask rainhorse68 A Question ]
adviceman49 answered Saturday August 11 2012, 9:37 am: I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
I found the following website, found at bottom of this page) while answering a very similar question for another young lady. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than for the boy. You are more emotionally mature than your partner is at the same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman must always have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, comfortable, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.
Before you make your decision review the website I have included below:
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