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Am I a horrible person?
I currently have a boyfriend. He is sweet,funny and treats me like a princess. The issue is I don't feelthose butterflies. Also I'm not physically attracted. I followed my brain and gave him a shot. Im still not physically attracted. I use to have a crush On a guy but we became best friends. This was 3 years ago. We barely talked during the last year. I needed help with school things so I text him. We started texting and I felt butterflies again. I anxiously waited for his replies. I feel horrible. Why can't I feel like this for my bf? I thought I was over the other guy but Clearly I'm not. I didn't flirt with the other guy but I feel like I'm deceiving my bf. Should I break up with him? Also I know there's not a chance with the othe guy because I'm in the friendzone. There's always that attraction between us but it's been there since I me him and he's never asked me out. Also I'm scared to ruin such a good friendship. Either way i feel my boyfriend deserves better.
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Hello! You are clearly stressed, and I must say I do not blame you. You sound like a good person who really knows the difference between right and wrong. You've already conquered the first step: Acceptance. You understand that what you're doing to your current boyfriend is wrong, and that he definately deserves better treatment. To me, it seems like you have a lot of emotions to sort through, and my advice to you would be to be truthful with your boyfriend. Tell him the truth: that he's a great, fantastic person, but that you can only see yourselves as friends. If you tell him straight-out how you feel, he'll hopefull understand. You may feel miserable in a relationship with him, but completely happy in just a friendship with him. And about the other guy: It's good that you didn't flirt with him, as your current boyfriend doesn't deserve that. I can't tell you whether or not you should date the other guy or not: that's your decision, one to decide when your free and ready. My other advice to you: Take some time off. Be single for a while. Really think and sort out your feelings and emotions. Maybe even try dating other people besides those two guys. Take a deep breath and realize that nobody is perfect, and that, no: YOU ARE NOT A HORRIBLE PERSON!
Good Luck!
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Well, to answer your first question, no you're not a horrible person. You can't control what you feel or to whom you're attracted.
This will be very tough, but I believe it is in the best interest of you both that you guys break up. It's not fair to you, and it's not fair to your boyfriend that you stay together. You're not feeling it, and he's in the dark. There needs to be chemistry in the relationship for you two to have a successful future. Again, it's not your fault that you're not attracted. Don't break up because of the other guy, but because this will be best for both of you.
That's my opinion, you do what feels right. I'm sure you'll figure out what the right thing to do is, you know the situation firsthand. Just follow your intuition.
Good luck and take care :)
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