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talking to hot girls
I've been told im really cute and been compliented about it by parents friends and people from school.and whenever Im at a store or the mall i notice that alot of women look at me even the most prettiest ones that are there do it. And whenever i notice a beautiful girl looking at me i make a quick 2 second eye contact with her and automatically look away and try to avoid her unintentionally because i get really shy because of how darn hot they are .and i end up acting funny if she trys to hint hints to me that she's interested .what should I do
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Awww i think its so cute when a guy is shy and not sure of what to say. You should practice it with your friend. Choose a girl that your friends with and practice with her. Also practice in the mirror too. It will help your confidence boost up. Compliment yourself and keep doing that until you start believing in it and you start feeling less shy. Don't get cocky and think your the "MAN" lols but have the high enough self-esteem to be able to get out your house & talk to those girls and flirt and hang out with them.
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Don't be shy! Girls love it when a guy takes charge and walks up and introduces himself. But don't get too cocky of how you look, cause a self absorbed guy is a little bit of a turn off :)
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I would recommend trying to just talk to more strangers in general. Once you get comfortable striking up conversations with someone you aren't physically attracted to, it becomes easier to talk to those girls that currently make you a little uneasy.
I actually use a similar system to your "2 second eye contact" method to metaphorically test the water before I talk to a girl. I try to hold eye contact for a second and then I smile. If she smiles back, all systems are go, we have an interested party. If she frowns or turns her back to you, abort mission. If she quickly looks away, well, there's a yellow light situation. She may or may not be interested. Try warming up on some green light cases first.
Probably a more important question to address is how to handle rejection. After all, that's what scares us. We're afraid of getting turned down and looking ridiculous and good lord almighty if there are other people present to witness the rejection we may just decide it's not worth the risk, so let me try and help you with how to handles rejection.
First off, don't come on too strong. She doesn't know why you're talking to her, so you don't have to immediately express your interest in her (although I recommend making that clear in the first few minutes to avoid confusion). Once you express that interest, if she rejects you, just tell her it was nice meeting her and you hope to see her around, or something similar. A lot of guys just don't know when to give up, and that just makes things so much worse as you are going to be rejected multiple times in a short time span.
Then there is the worst situation. Some girls are just rude. Talking to a stranger is not a crime, nor should it even be considered inappropriate as long as you aren't a six year-old talking to a man with a white van. Still, some girls will do everything possible to show that talking to them has greatly inconvenienced them in a way that sane people couldn't possibly understand. Some will just walk away without saying a word. Some will turn to their friends and say, "ugh, omygawd". I have even had a girl make a gagging noise once (funny thing is, I was going to ask to borrow her pen so I could fill out my luggage tag at the airport). These girls are actually my favorite, because there is a fantastic exit strategy: compliment them. Picture this scenario:
You see a group of girls at the park, and it looks like one of them is stealing glances in your direction. You decide to walk over and introduce yourself. After doing so, the girl turns to her friends, frowns, and shakes her head. You respond by saying, "sorry for bothering you, but I just wanted to say I really like your bracelet".
Regardless of your reasons for going over there, you've made her assumption that you were hitting on her seem false. You've made yourself look like a complete gentleman, and you've made her look like a real b----. You walk off with your dignity.
Most guys will insult the girl, something like, "well you're not that hot anyways". I like my method better.
Listening to some of those reactions, you might make the assumption that I have some kind of physical deformity, that my sheer presence is enough to empty a room of attractive women, but I promise I don't. Most of my exes are very attractive. My phone is full of numbers of girls I met all over town, and I too get compliments on a regular basis (although for some reason it's gay guys and teenage girls that seem most forthcoming with that information). Some girls/people are just bitter narcissistic people, and there isn't much you can do about it.
Lastly, change your attitude about meeting women. Instead of looking for the girl that will take you, look for the girl that meets YOUR standards. If a girl is rude, she's just one more that wouldn't have made the cut anyways.
I move a lot, so I have a lot of experience with meeting new people, but it's not really conducive to long term relationships (in case you're wondering why a guy who claims to have so much success hasn't settled down with one of these ladies).
Good luck and take care.
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Dear ?,
Everyone gets nervous at one point when talking to someone of the opposite gender or someone they like. It's natural! The problem, I think, is in your head. You know you're attractive, (which rules out the "low self esteem" option,) so you just need to have more confidence in your actual abilities of attracting someone...you know, charming someone. Next time a cute girl tries hinting that she's interested, take a deep breath. Relax. Look her in the eyes when you talk. Get the whole "name, age, location, hobbies" thing down, just to start things off. And the number one thing: CONFIDENCE! When girls see a guy with confidence, (but not TOO much confidence, you don't want to appear arrogant,) they become even more interested. Good luck!
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