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How do i know if my boyfriend wants to do anything with me?
Hi, I'm 16
I have a boyfriend and we r really close and talk about everything. He always brings sex up tho and asks me when we can have sex and stuff like that. I know tht I am of age so if I wanted to I could but I don't know if he's hinting or what but I'd love to I just am too embarrased to tell him tht straight out.
How can I tell him that I'd love to have sex and do other stuff.
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Like the other replies say, you GOTTA talk. If you get over-stimulated making-out together and just blunder into without discussing it first it you could end up in a REAL mess. Reading between the lines...I should try plenty of 'other stuff' first. Handjobs, fingering, maybe some oral? You can't get into any real problems with these. They can all easily 'just happen' without a discussion first. You'll become less shy with him real quick once you start.
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If you can't talk about it, you're not ready. You want to make sure that when you have sex that you are as safe and comfortable as possible. What if while you're having sex, you wish that he'd do something a little differently? You have to be able to tell him that while you're doing it. you may think that you'll be able to, but if you are having trouble talking with him now, it's not likely that you'll speak up then. What if the condom or other birth control fails and you end up getting pregnant? What if you have to talk about that? Will the two of you be ready for that conversation? Does your boyfriend believe that you can't get pregnant the first time you have sex, does he believe that you don't need to use a condom during certain times of the month, does he believe that sperm dies when it hits the air, does he think that he'll have enough control to pull out before he finishes, does he know what pre-ejaculate is, do you? All of these things could mean huge trouble for you. Sex isn't just something that you do when you feel ready. It's something that you have to learn about, talk about, and really prepare for. If your boyfriend believes any of those things he has to be set straight or having sex with him could be very dangerous. If the condom falls off you need to have a plan. What if he just pushes it back up and doesn't tell you? If you got pregnant would he leave you? There are so many things that could go wrong and so many incorrect beliefs that he could have that could jeopardize your life. Sex is a huge thing that you must talk about with him before you do it. It's a good way to prove to each other that you're mature enough to have it. If he's simply hinting at it and joking around about it, I'm guessing that he's embarrassed to talk about it too so you won't be alone. Please, please do not have sex with him before you have a serious conversation about the rules and the consequences. You'll be so happy and relieved once you do. Always remember that if anything bad happens, you'll be the one stuck with the responsibility, not him. It's a bigger deal and a bigger decision for you so you must make sure that the both of you are completely ready. The only way to do that is to talk about it.
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Hello! You seem pretty eager for an answer, so i'll get right into it: the number one key to a successful relationship, (besides trust,) is being open with each other. Sex is a big, big thing to talk about with one another. A lot of people are embarrassed when talking about sex with their partner, but it has to be done in order to truly be ready for sex. Call him up, get together, whichever you're more comfortable with, and tell him that it's time to talk about sex. Because he's already started hinting that he wants it, i'm guessing that he really does want it! But there are two people in a relationship: both people matter. Once you two reach a level ground of understanding and agreement, go for it! (With protection, of course. You don't want to be raising a kid at 16, now, do you?)
Good Luck!
RosiePosie12321
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