How can I be the alpha and have control over my friend?
Question Posted Thursday August 2 2012, 3:29 am
So this girl who lives next door to me is (11/f) and she has lived there scince forever. Im (13/f) and sorta used to have controll over her. I remember when I was younger I used to say I will never be friends with you again to get what I wanted. She's older and more mature and so am I. I'm a real polite girl and am nice to her as I'm somewhat a role model. She starts to have controll over ME like let's say I have a problem with something she has made or said or something and it's hard for me to tell her. I don't know why I guess I'm not used to feeling like the underdog. How can I become the alpha again? WITHOUT being mean? Thanks peace!
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship? rotXinXpieces answered Thursday August 2 2012, 9:36 pm: Don't like the beta position, eh? Well, unfortunately, in real friendships, there is no alpha, beta, or omega. You both should have equal amounts of decision made between you two. Yes, age may be a component and one of you is more mature than the other, but that doesn't make you or her more powerful. Friendship is a bond of equality and trust, not power and dominance. If you want her to know that you're her equal, just tell her flat out. If you guys are friends, you should be able to tell her flat out "Hey, I'm smart and awesome too. Let's be smart and awesome together".
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