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I hate my friend's mom. She's ruining our friendship.
I'm starting to really hate, and despise my best friend's mother. She's too strict, and cultured. They're from Pakistan/Afghanistan. I've known her for like 5-6 years.
Anyways, I live in an apartment building. She lives 2 floors down. Her mom won't let her come over to my house because it's my step dad's day off from work.
Honestly, that is so insulting because my step dad is not a fucking rapist or a sex offender. I told my friend that him and my mom are out shopping anyways, and her mom is like "It doesn't matter, because he's going to come home anyways."
That is so insulting. Not just to my stepdad, but to ME and to my MOTHER. What kind of people does she think we are?
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Xenolan is correct in what she has written. I would have written almost exactly what she has written. This has all to do with culture and nothing to do with you, your step-dad or you mother.
They may be recent immigrants to this country but their culture stays with them. There is nothing you can do about this and please do not take offense. IF her mother were to allow her to come to your home her father would most like demand she wear a Burka which covers her from head to toe. I doubt you want to cause her to wear this.
If she attends public school and does not were a Burka it is because they are bending to the law it does not mean they condone it.
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If your friend is from a Muslim family, then it's a religious thing. Conservative Muslims consider it inappropriate for a woman to be alone with a man who is not her father or brother. It is, in my opinion, a backward and misogynist way of thinking, but it exists nonetheless.
Your friend's mother may not be quite that conservative, but it is my guess that something like that is behind her insistence that her daughter not be around your stepfather. And it's not something you will be able to do ANYTHING about. Your friend's mother is not going to change her religious beliefs for you or for your family. You will not be able to reason with her, because she didn't arrive at her beliefs through reason; they were likely drilled into her as a child, and that's not easy to overcome even if she wanted to. It's not a personal insult against your stepdad or the rest of your family; she would probably feel this way no matter who you were.
This is just something which you will have to decide whether or not you can live with. It's not going to change until your friend is old enough to tell her mother that she can choose for herself who to associate with.
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Wow dude chill the fuck out, it's called cultural conservationism. Don't be so butt-hurt making everything about you: don't you think your friend is as fed up as you are? She lives with that every day, count yourself lucky you selfish punk.
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