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I just want a girlfriend

Question Posted Monday July 30 2012, 2:14 am

Im not your average guy. I get attached easily, but I hide it well. All I want to do is care for a girl and treat her like the queen she is without being crushed. I want a commitment. I want to be nice, but nice guys always finish last. :(

I go through this cycle maybe twice a month. And my results are making myself more handsome or working out. But nothing works.

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Erinn_the_bamf answered Wednesday August 1 2012, 9:11 pm:
Let go of all this self-loathing "nice guys finish last" bullshit. Nice guys don't always finish last, you just hate yourself too much to think you deserve what you really want. Don't work on your body or your level of attractiveness. Work on your self-confidence and the way you feel about yourself, and the ladies will take notice.

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TheLonelySoul answered Monday July 30 2012, 10:29 pm:
I'm waiting too. But one thing is the way I think. The "average guy" and "nice guys last" thing is not valid. First off, it's titling individuals in an opinionated way, second, society makes it seem valid. Look past titles and don't let them control your thought. It will help a lot.

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xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx answered Monday July 30 2012, 4:50 am:
Are you in High School? If so, stick it out. High School is hard for a lot of kids to have relationships because you basically live in a bubble. Once you finish it and go on to college, work and life you realise just how big the world is and how much different it is to High School. I know pleeeenty of people that never had relationships all through High School and then as soon as they were out found someone they clicked with.

If you're not in High School, it is still going to take time to find a girl that is suitable for you. After a few relationships I've realised that as much as I want a partner sometimes, what matters to me is finding someone special. I would rather wait years to find someone that I love being around, that makes me laugh, that's similar to me but so incredibly different that it means things are exciting, than date an endless number of men that last a few months then burn out.

My advice is to be more outgoing and social which is a lot easier said than done. Spend more time going out with your friends places and don't be afraid to meet new people. You aren't going to meet someone if you're in the same places all the time. If you see a girl you like or are interested in, make the chance and go and talk to her. Ask her out on a date. The worst she can say is no, and confidence is something that a lot of women find very attractive.

And no one wants an average guy. Your differences are what will make girls fall in love with you.

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