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Can you be a lesbian and not be turned on by girls?
Im 14/f Who is gay but lately I really kinda don't feel turned on by girls even when I fantasize about them. Ive never been kissed by a girl but have by a boy but didn't feel a spark, Also with boys I'm not attracted at all. Is this something lesbians go threw. Also I don't know if it's because Ive loved my BFF for two years and we just ended our friendship. Could I be asexual? or I've never kissed a girl and don't have much experience.
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Any one who is you age or even a bit older is still trying to figure out just who they are. This would include who they are sexually. While it is possible you are gay I would not be so fast to pin a label on yourself at least not for a few more years.
Both boys and girls at your age do experiment with sex with people of the same sex. Why? Well for one thing it is easier and it is safer. Parents are far less concerned when two girls are alone in a room then when a boy and a girl are alone in a room.
Sleepovers are a a great place to experiment with same sex, sex. Parents go to bed feeling secure that nothing will happen. For the most part they are right, nothing much does happen. No one can get pregnant and their really isn't anything wrong with mutual masturbation if that takes place, even if things go a little further it is a learning experience day remember doing.
So to my mind you are no a lesbian. Just a typical 14 year old girl trying to find out who she is sexually. While you ultimately may be a lesbian don't label yourself as one just yet.
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You very well could be asexual. But you are still very young. Your mind is changing, and so is your body. At 14, you cannot make such a judgement. My advice: wait and see how you feel about people. You still have a lot of growing up to do.
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