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I'm in love with this guy who is 15 & I am 13 but my parents don't know!
So, I'm in love with this guy I've known for a year, he's 15... he's in highschool. He makes me smile! He's the sweetest, anyways I'm 13 female I will be finishing my last year of middle school this year. He claims he's in love with me as well, but I feel bad because of the fact that I can't just make plans with him because my dad doesnt know about him & also there is females out there that are his age & can have a boyfriend. I'm not sure if I can have a boyfriend or not.. But I'm just scared to ask my dad. So how should I tell him? HELP!
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THis isn't a really big age difference since some people have 5 years difference and you have only 2. The best thing to do is to just ask your dad.
Don't ask him directly, start a conversation with him, for example talk to him and say "when did you and mom meet?" And then ask him questions such as "did you have girlfriends before mom?" And "how old where you?" Then you dad might see that you taking intrest in his love life might mean that you met some one, this will get him interested and give yiu and opertunity to ask the question.
This is the simplest way to do this without alarming your dad too much.
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A two year age difference does not sound like a big deal and it wouldn't be if you were 23 and he 25. At 13 & q5 it is a big deal because of the difference in your years of maturity.
The fact that you are writing to us for help says a lot about your maturity. I don't think you want to lie to your dad yet you think this is the boy who loves you and you love him. this may be true though teenage boys have a problem with knowing what love really is. They confuse love with lust.
A young Adults, which is what you are now that you are a teenager, have problems with puberty and the new hormones now entering their body. While girls have many different problems to conquer; boys have mainly one. The overwhelming need to to lower their sexual frustration level. This is were the confusion between love and lust come together.
This is what we as parents look at when our daughters come to us and say; "mom/dad there is a boy who says he loves me and wants to take me on a date." Then the questions we as are; How long have you known him? Do we know him? Do we know his parents? Then the big question. How old is he?
Why do we ask these questions? Simply because we want to protect you. Please remember we were once your age and while we realize that for you this may be true love; for him it is more likely lust. Your to young to be pregnant and your love for him, especially for someone older and more mature, can easily mislead you into doing something you shouldn't.
My advice is to tell dad the truth for to lie to him will mean he will not trust you in the future when he finds out and he will, that you can count on. You will need dads trust in the future if you want the social life you should have.
Don't be surprised if dad say no. If I were your dad I would be saying no. There is a lot to be learned about dating and you learn it by dating boys your own age. This boy has already learned what you need to learn and should be dating girls who have learned how to handle lustful boys.
I can't help wonder if this boy is looking at you, a younger girl, to make it easier to get what her wants from you. This would be sex, which he can't get from older girls. This to blunt is what me and your dad will be most concerned with.
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Tell the truth and let your dad know how much you like this guy and he might be understanding. Maybe even let your dad meet him probably.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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