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Can't Stop Lying to my "Friends"
I keep lying to my supposed "friends." I don't know why I do, it just comes out! I hate that I can't keep from lying to them. Mostly it's about a boyfriend that doesn't even exist! I honestly don't know why I say these things. I get really sad about it, but can't face telling them the truth. What if they don't wanna be friends anymore afterwards? I've had lots of trouble making friends in the past and don't think I can face being friendless again. Please help. I'm desperate.
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I can understand your need to fit in. We all seek approval at some point in our lives. Now the issue here is lying in order to get that approval. Obviously you know that it is wrong. The misconception that you have, however, is that you can't keep from lying. You can control what you say but the truth is that you are afraid of rejection. My advice is to come clean. If they are your friends they will be willing to forgive you and move on. If not, they are not real friends. Why would you want friends who you can not be real with anyway? One lie leads to the next and all lies come to light. Wouldn't it be better for you to tell the truth than to have your lies exposed by someone else? How embarrassing would that be? I know its hard to face ourselves, but it is only then that we can truely grow.
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Well it seems to me that you have serious problems of self-confidence and self-esteem,and of course,lies are often weapons you tend to use whenever you can,don't feel sad about it,you should try to do therapy so you can build self-confidence and increase your self-esteem,I used to lie a lot to my friends and boyfriend and my therapist told me that that meant I was afraid of facing the truth,that I used my lies in order to hide my real emotions,so stop fibbing to your friends but to really start doing it,start helping yourself:)
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