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To move or not to move to be closer to my children and soon to be grandchild?
Hello,
I live in Mississippi. My two sons live in Illinois. They have both recently been married. One is expecting a baby. Should I sell my home down south and move up north to be closer to my children or should I stay where I am? It is much cheaper for me to live down south, however, a grandchild is on the way. I just don't know what I should do. Please advise.
Thank you
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This is really a tough question to answer. Being probably close to your age and living on a fixed income I can understand your dilemma.
I understand your desire to be close to your future grandchildren to both enjoy watching them grow and to help your children raise them. I also understand what leaving your home in the south will cost you in monetary costs.
To my mind one does cancel out the other but not in the way one may think. Moving north and putting a financial burden on yourself will also put a strain on you that will effect how you live and enjoy life. I don't know you but I do know people who have done what you are contemplating. Quality of life for yourself is just as important as being close to your grandchildren. You cannot live your live through them. In fact you may actually be able to do more for them if you financial life is better.
As the grandchildren grow older extended visits with grandparents are more enjoyable for them and the grandparents. You may be able to do things with then or for them that their parents are not able to such as trips with you to places such as Disneyland. Having the grandchildren visit with you at your home will also give you quality of time with them while allowing their parents to renew their relationship and rejuvenate.
Their are a lot of plus reason on the side of staying where you are. There are a few desired reasons for moving. You have to decide if the plus reasons out weight the desired reasons.
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This is gonna have to take you alot of thought. and you have to be able to say yes to this move for you. not JUST for your children. Yes it would be nice to see them grow up and see the grandchildren. But it is a choice entirely up to you.
I would also talk to your children. and see their opinions. on it.
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