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My dads in prison.
I haldnt spoken to my father in seven years. I am thirteen years old. My mother was only fifteen and my dad was nineteen. When I was around three my father was charged with armed robbery in nj so he fled to florida. Before I stopped speaking to him he only called me twice a year(if that) and I watched my mother and grandmother struggle to raise me without any help from my dad which is why I stopped speaking to him. Five years ago my mother met my stepdad and he's amazing. In those five years he has been more of a father to me than my biological father has been in thirteen years. Anyways my aunt recently called to tell me that the cops went to look for him in florida and he is now in jail in nj. She says that he told her to tell me that he loves me and that he is sorry but I don't know what to do. I don't think that he deserves it. I have even considered getting my last name changed to my mothers so that I have nothing to do with him. I have no problem talking to my aunts and uncles and cousins and grandparents because its not their faults it is only his. So should I talk to him or ignore him????
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Dear My dad's in prison,
The beauty of being human is that we each have the ability to forgive. That does not mean that we forget as soon as we forgive. It also does not mean that we have to keep the people we forgive in our lives or exclude them either.
Maybe he is a new man and wants to make up for all his wrongs. I believe that everyone deserves a chance to change and the chance to prove they have changed.
The choice is yours. You can stay mad and harbor the anger and resentment until it ruins your life. OR you can forgive him, accept him and help him be a better man.
He will either prove himself or he will not. Either way, at least you forgave him and gave him a chance.
Good Luck!!
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In your shoes i'd never stop talking or stop loving my biological father no matter what not even if he killed someone and i mean it but i don't know about you honey nevertheless i'd be visiting him once or twice each month but that's my choice you should go with what you want but remember that your biological true father loves you...other than that its your choice
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