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Does he think he owns me?
I'm kind of with this guy right now we aren't officially dating but we are an "item" I guess and we recently have taken our relationship a bit further and at times I get the sense that he thinks he owns me or something. For example he is doing this rap battle thing at the mall soon and he doesn't want me to go and he said its because he thinks I'm too innocent and that it's not a place I should be (we are pretty opposite he's from "the hood" as he says and I'm just a "goodie two shoes") and I don't mind if he doesn't want me there but I told him "so you don't want me to come and see? Because I'm pretty sure I can handle it" and he said "no you can't I won't let you" well I understand if he doesn't want me in that environment but the fact that the word "let" was in his mind worries me a bit and he has also said to me that I always have to say the opposite of what he says which isn't true and I asked him "well what am I suppose to do just agree with everything you say even if I don't?" and he never answered me, he just told me he was tired and was going to go to sleep and left my question unanswered which seemed a little shady
He is very sweet, caring and thoughtful but is he starting to think he owns me?
I'm 16 and a female and I would appreciate any gender answering my question but I would like a males perspective as well as a female so I could see the difference in view point thank you and I hope I'm not asking too much but I'm open to anyone answering my question
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I would really liked to have known his age before answering this question. I'm guessing that he is around your age. If so then you are correct he does in a way see you as his property. Not in like a house or car but just belonging to him.
To him this means he needs to be protective of you. The goodie two shoes remark he made is probably what attracts him about you. You are his opposite and if you remember your basic science class, opposites attract.
What I am not sure of is he is the right type of guy for you. This type of guy, being from the hood withstanding, is generally the type who becomes overly protective. When that happens you become smothered and can actually be placed in danger from his being protective. He is already showing the bad side of his protecting you by trying to control where you can go. Controlling where you can go, then who can see leads to a very dangerous position for you to be in. This boy while learn to be a controller if he is not already one.
My advice to you is to rethink whether this is someone you want to be with. As the saying goes there are more fish in the sea. If you put your hook back in the water I'm sure you can hook a boy who will not stifle you and the two of you can try and build a proper relationship.
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