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Hard for us to have sex, due to my "size"?
Hey there. 17-year-old female, who is currently dating the most amazing guy she has ever met. After a few months of dating, we had finally decided to have sex for the first time. He had already lost his virginity a while ago, but I was brand-spanking new to pretty much everything. He eased me comfortably through foreplay and some fingering, which hurt a bit at first, but I eventually adjusted to. Then he finally decided to push inside for the first time.
The pain was unbelievably excruciating, and it completely caught me off guard. I knew the first time was going to hurt, so I told myself I would power through it, but after a few more thrusts, I had to quit. He understood and backed off, and we spent the rest of the night doing other things.
Two weeks later, we decided to try again. This time, he fingered me for a little while longer, because we both thought that might help loosen me up a little bit. We also bought a good amount of lube, and made sure he was fully slicked up before we tried again. However, the exact same thing as last time happened, and I was almost crying because of all the pain I was experiencing when he pushed inside. This is when we both started to worry that I was just way too tight for us to have sex at this point.
I want us to keep trying, but the pain is absolutely horrible, and I'm not sure what to do. I usually have a very high tolerance; however, this is way beyond what I can handle. The only advice we can get is to just keep going at it...but it would be nice to know any other ways to help ease this process.
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If it continues every time than I would see a gynecologist about this. The articles I read all point to there being a lack of vaginal lubrication or the position you chose and depth of thrust and vigor as the issue.
Perhaps if you tried different positions without deep thrusts it may be comfortable. Most articles suggest masturbation before sex and or certain adult novelty toys meant for penetration as a way of dealing with tightness and erasing pain. Good luck and hopefully this helps. If you search Google there's tons of articles and ideas that we can't put here that may yield answers and ideas.
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I think that because of your first experience trying it has made you clamp up however disgusting that sounds. When you try again your brain is reminding you of how much "doing this" hurts from your past experience. You need to relax and I think if you were to try from on top and ease yourself rather than him forcing his way in then you will become more comfortable doing it in your own time. Trust me I know it's this because Ive been having sex for years but when Im uncomfortable or thinking about things that put me off, I clamp up too and it just aint happening.
Keep trying, make yourself feel sexy with nice lingerie and it will make you feel good about yourself and will be more likely to relax and your natural lubricants will be released. I'd still use lube though
Good luck!
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