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I need to know the truth.
my name is Rachel and i am 22 years old and i will be 23 on Wends-day which is less than a week a way and she says it happened a week before I turned 4 and she also said that had said that he wanted my sisters to and that there was nothing she could do to maker him stop and I don't think that my mom would lie to me about something as horrible at this but what is making me doubtful is that my dad's side of the family has told me for years that she is lying and I should believe what she says. I also don't know weather or not to believe them because my mom says that they are just trying to take up for my dad even though he has been dead ever since I was 12 years old so I can't even go and confront my dad with what is being said about him and even if it was true he probably would deny it to take the blame off his self if he was alive to ask. I do remember bits and pieces but I don't remember the sexual abuse what I remember is my dad slapping my mom and my granny telling my dad to hit her some more and I also remember the police coming to my aunt's house while I was on my dad's lap the cops handcuffing and putting him in a police car and me in a different police car. I've been having nightmare's about the terrible event and I don't know if these are flashbacks or not. my mom said that she took me and my sister's to doctor Col lip which was my pediatrician should
I go to him and ask would it still be on file or would my file be closed since I go to a family doctor now? I also had to have court ordered visitation rights with my dad every other weekend.
my my mom also said he only spent a night in jail and only got 10 years probation wouldn't he have gotten more time than this and I don't think the police would have allowed him to live in the house right behind me if this really happened. If I would go to the police and ask would they still have it on record after almost 19 years?
I can't ask any of my dad's side of the family because they won't talk to me anymore because I still talk to my mom and my mom and my step dads all i have now because my granny died 2 years ago and when she was alive she had severe Alzheimer's and wouldn't remember. what should I do and who should I go to? sorry this is so long but i had to explain everything so that you would be able to answer my question and my mom also said I couldn't talk until I was 4 years old but my dad was in the Vietnam war and my mom said that he wasn't right in the mind plus he had PTSD from the war and being sexually abused when he was a child at least that's what my mom says. If he was molested by his dad why would he want to do it to hes almost 4 year old little girl? please tell me what to do to find out what happened and what's the truth?
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When you are a young child and are sexually abusesd for years and years sometimes you end up being an abuser as well thinking its right or ok even though you know its not. I dont agree with it trust me i think every sexual offender should be locked up or worse. From when you have wrote on here I agree with your mother. Yes flash backs can happen you also have (now before i write i am not a licensed therapist) but I was diagnosed with PTSd and a theripist can help you cope with this even if you dont remember you can still have PTSD those flash backs tell you what happened and someday you may have a night mare of everything that happened i think you should speak with a theripist before you start seeking answers
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First your letter is not totally coherent but I will do my best to answer your questions.
First the big question: Would an abused child abuse their own child. The answer to this question unfortunately is yes. Just why this is so I am not qualified to answer. A psychologist may be able or should be able to answer this part of the question better.
Now as to your other questions. By law doctors are required to keep medical records on file for a certain period of time. Just how long a period that could vary from state to state. That being said; should your pediatrician still have you medical records then you, as an adult now, are entitled to have them. The doctor should release copies of his records to you upon written request.
Police records are a different story. They never go away. Someplace they are archived. You may have to use the Freedom of Information Act request to get what you are looking for or you may need a lawyer to request of the court to have them released to you. I believe though that if the Police will not give them to you voluntarily a Freedom of Information request should be sufficient to get what you are asking for.
As for the rest of what you have written. I can only suggest if you are going to dig up all of this you should do so with the help of a qualified family therapist. It appears to me you are about to dig up 19 years of family history and personal hurt. It would be best if you did so with the help of a qualified therapist to help you make sense of all of this and to properly deal with it. To do so any other way is to injure yourself all over again except this time the hurt will be even deeper.
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