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Just need advice how to help me be a better older brother. I get so angry with my little brother!
Alright so about 20 mins ago me and my little brother were playing soccer and he keep saying penalties and saying no take it back do it again I wasn't ready (throw ins) and at the end he just I don't know I think its more my problem but i threatened to kick his ball up the back yard pitch dark 3 acres but I actually wasn't he was just annoying me ( Im not that mean I hope ) and any way went down to the house and he annoyed me so I kicked about 5 meters away and chased after the ball like him he got it then I pushed him over and he tried to get up I pushed him he quicker me and all and I keep doing it to him then I got the ball again and he started crying. I also made him cry this morning and felt bad about it now I feel really bad and I want to Apologize and all but I just want to be a good older brother etc I try but he just gets on my nerves I need advice on how to have fun with him and how not to get angry and hurt him threaten him etc he is like 8-9 I'm turning 14 I know those details arnt suppose to go on the net but ahwell it's for him I'd take my life for him if I had to I lI've him and all just need that advice please thanks
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This is hard to explain but I think you have to try and remember what its like being his age, with little respect or consideration shown to you and wanting to do do all the silly stuff of life.
I know when I was his age, all I wanted to do was show off how clever I was so I'd devise spelling tests for myself (all words I knew of course!) and ask my mother to test me.
Before playing games, agree terms first, for example, penalties only if both sides agree, the one who kicks the ball out gets it back etc. Making a cintract between you and will hopefully prevent disagreements and fights; it also encourages him to make decisions and see the consequences of his actions.
If you feel you might get angry, cool down first then suggest you both do something useful or creative, cleaning the car, your rooms, painting, cooking, going for a walk together.
You could try forgetting that he's your brother, think of him more as a potential friend - the age gap between you of 4-5 years seems massive now but in 10 years time, you'll be two young men in the the same age group, with similar interests.
Giving him a chance to shine by showing off a bit, getting to know him and being friends might reap big rewards later on for both of you.
Hope this helps, let me know how you get on?
Best wishes x.
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