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Was I really Pregnant? Konwing I am not a virgin, and I had an abortion makes me feel awful!
Well this happened a few months back n I feel guilty. Since I have my periods regularly almost the exact date, once when it got postponed for a week I totally panicked. i did a pregnancy test at home twice and it turned to be positive. Me n my boyfriend looked up for early abortion tablets online, also consulted a friend whos married and I took the pill. The periods started immediately. I know I should have consulted a doctor but in my circumstances I was too embarassed to do so. Thinking of the facts that 'I am not a virgin' plus 'I have had an abortion' makes me feel horrible! Not that I will marry this guy, things between us are so bad , I fear a break up soon. How do I get rid of this dirty feeling?
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First I don't think these early abortion tablets sold online actually work. If they do, I don't think they work as fast as you say this one did. I think it takes a few days for something like this to work.
Rather what I believe occurred here is you obsessed over a possible pregnancy and you through your cycle off causing you to be late. When you took this pill, possible a placebo, you relaxed enough for your body to function properly and your period started.
There are a lot of snake oil medicines sold online. Most of them do not work as advertised. When they do work it is more mind over matter. Another way of putting it is you mind cured the problem. You didn't abort anything, rather your body rebooted itself when you relaxed enough to allow it to do so.
The mind is a powerful tool. Ask any doctor and they will tell you that most of them are not talented enough to truly cure everything that ails us. They just send the bills. Our mind and our beliefs in a higher power are what really cures us.
So let this be a lesson to you. If your going to have sex you need to be on birth control and your partner needs to wear a condom. If you are over 14 years of age you do not need parental permission to seek a doctors appointment for any ailment or medical treatment concerning your reproductive health. This goes for boys as well.
This is guaranteed under Federal Law called HIPPA. Under this law you are guaranteed total medical confidentiality. Meaning you can speak openly with the doctor about any concerns you have and treated for them. You can ask for and receive a prescription for birth control pills or any other form of birth control you and your doctor agree upon is right for you.
Your mother has no right to be in the exam room with you and the doctor will not examine you if mom is in the room unless you consent to it. You cannot consent under duress. Any information concerning your doctors visit is totally confidential and cannot be released without your written consent. This is federal law and carries stiff prison time for the doctor or anyone in his/her employ.
Even if and when you are on birth control and until you are in a long term committed relationship. Your sex partners must wear a condom. This limits some of the STDs but not all that can be exchanged during sex.
Short answer to your question: I don't believe you had an abortion. Things don't work as you described them so please don't feel bas but learn from this experience.
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I am sorry you have been though this.
Certainly the feelings are awful, and you are absolutely, and without question, better off seeking counseling to help you change your life and get over these feelings.
Can I tell you something that will scare the hell out of you?
You are headed for a repeat performance. :-(
You are still having sex with this guy, that you KNOW you will not marry, right?
That means more abortions are likely if you keep this up. Please don't do that.
How do you stop the dirty feeling? Well, the very first step would be to stop doing the thing that made all the horrible feelings in the first place, right?
Which is worse... saying I had an abortion, or I had two abortions?
Have you asked yourself why you are with him, if you know it is going to end badly, and you aren't happy? If you don't have a real answer, and you can't bring yourself to dump him... then please, please this is all the more reason to talk to a professional about things.
To answer your other question: If the tests said you were pregnant, you were most likely pregnant.
I wish with all my heart that you hadn't had to learn this the hard way, but please don't make the same mistake again. You should also consult a physician and be honest. Your records are private, and the doctor needs the complete truth.
There can be complications, and you MUST get yourself checked out.
I am very worried for you. Please take care of yourself. You have made some bad decisions, but you can overcome them and be a better person because of what you have been through.
I hope that you find a guy that is, in this one way, like me: If I was with someone who turned up pregnant, we would invite everyone over and throw a party.
I hope the next time you are pregnant, it is with someone who loves you and the baby you made together.
Please. I am begging you... get out of this relationship before you have to repeat all of this. It happened to someone I know, and the second time is worse than the first.
Take care, and if you need anything else, please write.
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