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I'm 13 & my boyfriend is 16...
Right so I'm 13 and my boyfriend is 16, we have so much respect for each other and he's the one I want to lose my virginity to, i know you are all going to say "you way too young" but I know I'm ready! Nothing's going to change my mind... I've discussed the topic with him and he said its up to me, he would never push me into anything I wasn't ready for. I was just wondering where the best place to do this would be? Ehm also, I've done everything but sex with him... I might be staying at his sisters with him soon, should I do it then? I know I'm ready so no nasty comments thank you... I'm American so we're both under-age...
Please don't call me a 'slut', 'whore' ect... Because I'm not I'm mad for this boy so before you judge think?!
Thanks:'-)!
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Okay,I'm also 13 and my boyfriend is about to be 16. We've decided not to have sex until I'm at least 17. He hasn't asked for sex or anything but I don't think you need to be having sex with him. I mean come on,do you think at our age we need to be having sex?
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I am not and will not judge you in any way, I'm just going to say it how it is.
You say that you are ready to lose your virginity. But are you ready to have and support a child? Would you be able to raise a child at your age? Of course not. At 13, you are still in school, living with your parents/guardians, and you can't even drive. Even if you aren't wanting a baby, there is no guarantee that you won't get pregnant even if you use protection. You might think, there's no way. Well don't you think that's what almost every other teenage mom said before they had sex?
What about your parents? I'm pretty sure that you're parents didn't just tell you "oh honey yeah it's okay to have sex with your boyfriend, just make sure you both are careful". No, they would probably be against it.
As for the physical and emotional stand point, especially because of your age, if you were to get pregnant, it would be hard on yourself. One, you are still developing and two, sex isn't some emotionless thing that you can get over if you make a mistake. It's not like riding your bike for the first time, it's something that you'll remember forever, good or bad.
I'm not trying to tell you that what you and your boyfriends has is bad or wrong. You could have an amazing relationship and truly love each other, but that's not the point. I'm just trying to get you to see that having sex with him at your age is not a good idea. When you get older, you'll understand it better.
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I am going to answer this in a way you arent going to like: but in NO way should a 13 year old be having sex (or even dating) a 16 year old. I realize that 3 years isn't a huge age gap, but it is when you are that young. I"m sorry, my only advice is to not sleep with him. You will regret it later.
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I am going to answer your question with complete and utter honesty. I am no judging you at all I am sharing my knowledge with you based on my OWN personal experiences I am in no means saying I know everything or to not do this or to not break up with him I am sharing my opinions and thoughts with you and giving my advice but I am going to be honest. So if you are easily offended just ignore this and look to someone else's advice but this is mine.
From what I've come to know trusting a guy that much older than you, usually doesn't work but I know someone I would go out with of the same age difference so it depends on the person. From my experience, he can say many sweet things like I would never pressure you, it's up to you, even if you ask what HE wants he will still say it's your decision. I have had several guys use me just for sex. I was dating a very very sweet guy, all my friends told me he was a good choice we were cute and stuff. He was 16 going on 17, I was 15 going on 16, no big difference, I loved him I wasn't IN love with him but I loved him and I was stupid enough to believe in this love that he was the one I wanted to lose my virinity to, he told me sweet things he said "I'll be here for you, I promise I will stick with you until something f***** up happens." I said like what? And he said who knows? The worled is a f***** up place. My friends were like aww that's sweet! He always told me I never had to do anything I didn't want, and he would never pressure me, I even planned to have sex with him for his bday and he said no. But then he said to his friends behind my back "Oh I would totally have sex with her then just break up with her!" Fortunately I was lucky enough to be friends with the same guy he told, and he cares about me and told me because he didn't want to see me get hurt. A guy cheated on his girlfriend of two years with me just for sexual urges, and I really cared for him because of his personality, I wanted someone sweet and loyal to write me poems and make me cute promises, but he wasn't that guy, he cheated on his gf and he doesn't deserve her, she is the sweetest most faithful girl, I was very close friends with her and now we don't talk at all. I liked another guy for two years, he always would fool around with me and touch me and things when we hung out, I almost went to third base with him and he told me I was the only girl he'd ever done those things with but he never told me he liked me or wanted me to be his gf. Instead he dated some other girl a month later. They all used me. I am the last person to be calling you a slut. You're not a slut for having sexual urges, you are ESPECIALLY not a slut for wanting to have sex with your BOYFRIEND. You are a slut if you DO have sex with MULTIPLE random hookups, not your boyfriend. I was very stupid, I didn't see past the infatuation, fortunately my body told me something my mind couldn't comprehend, everytime I was about to go too far, I would freeze. I would stop where I was and I wouldn't continue what we were doing and when I was ready, I would go all the way. I had a new bf named Dani, boy was I head over heels for that kid, I wanted to lose my virginity to him, I was 15 and so was he, we were both virgins and I loved him, I nearly fell in love with him, I thought I was. We were together for 3 months, it never happened, another guy flirted with me and he dumped me, hates me and doesn't talk to me. That other guy just so happens to be my current bf who I know is in love with me. 3 days ago was our 1 month anniversary and I lost my virginity to him, I never ONCE thought I would lose it to him but that day, I looked into his eyes and I knew I was ready and I knew I was in love with him, it was real because I chose the right person this time. His heart was dark and tortured and I was the one to save him. He had locked his emotions away for all 15 years of his life, and I had brought them back somehow.....because I was destined to be the only other girl he was in love with. He didn't lie to me he had a former love, they never got together but if they did he would tell me because he's told me all about his past sex life, he's far from a virgin I can tell in his experience, and what he does to me. I lost my virginity to him that day and afterwards he kissed me on the forehead and told me he loved me. I didn't need a sweet poem or a promise. When love is true, you know it. And I want you to believe in this before you fall so hard for someone who might not feel the same way about you as you do about him. I know how it feels, it hurts and if you lose your viriginity to the wrong person imagine how much more broken down you will be if they betray you, it hurts in general knowing how much you love them but if they're you're first it will be a more fatal blow than you can imagine. Yes, my bf is perverted he tries so many things and doesn't listen when I say stop unless I'm serious, he's immature, he's irritating, he's very sexual, he pins me down and says he will rape me and if I let him, he really will. He's done it before. But I know he loves me and if I honestly didn't like it, he wouldn't do it, but it's part of who he is and I love every last drop of it. I love him for who he is and I wouldn't change anything about him. I love it when he plays games with me, I tease him so that he does do that. It's part of me. I pull away so that he'll pull me close and kiss me all over my face until I let him kiss my lips. I kiss his cheek and walk away so that he'll grab me, pull me in, and hold me close. I mean everything to him, when I broke up with him the first time(due to severe complication with the other guy) he was crushed, he literally walked around like an emotionless zombie, nothing in his past had ever hurt him like that, he was the most happy care-free energetic person because he sealed his emotions away. I brought them out in him and he can't handle the torture unless I'm there with him. It's true love. I know he was the right person. I hope you do too. Use protection.
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