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Need advise on pre marraige in law issues
Hi ,
I am in this relationship for the past year n a half. It started off as a family friend proposing this guy but we ended up meeting in private n falling in love before this could happen the formal way. His parents were totally against it since they thought he could do better and I was not their choice. After a long battle he convinced them.Engagement n wedding dates got finalised and broken off in a week since his mom kept constantly trying to find faults with me n my family n spoke rudely to my dad. with such things happening me n my guy ended up fighting over everything n he complained about our fights to his family n my dad. Hence I had to call it off. But we still love each other n panning to still make it work . he is going abroad next week n is going to settle there. He wants me to settle things with his mom n marry him in few months. M not sure wot m supposed to do since his family totally hates me. And my boyfriend hardly has any communication skills,and doesnt wish to talk to his parents anymore regarding this. Is it worth it? staking my self respect n family's ego? Any suggestions?
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The fact of the matter is just this. It is you two that are marrying each other. The future in-laws can accept this or they can reject this, that is up to them. While life would be better if you both had your parent blessings you do not need it. You are the ones that need to be happy together.
If the two of you feel that you can marry and build a life together and be happy. That is all that counts. If you do marry and build a good life together then your in-laws will see this and hopefully see the error of their judgmental ways.
One would also think that you and your husband would eventually want children. It is surprising how grandchildren tend to soften parents up when they become grandparents. There is of course the possibility that your parents and in-laws will remain judgemental and obstinate. This is something you must be prepared for.
Good luck and I hope I have helped.
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Dearfamily. I know you don't like me. And i know that you think your sun could do better. But our son is happy. He deserves to be happy. With who he chooses. NOt who you choose. I make your son happy. and he makes me happy. Please accept the fact that he's in love with me. and i'm inlove with your son. You need to be the better perso and accept the fact that although you may not like me. You son wants to be married to me. he wants to live with me. and you have to accept it. Think of your son in this situation not your self. This is not your happyness it is his. I am marring your son. because I AM GOOD ENOUGH. And you have to bite your tongue. and realize, I love your son. I am not going away. And you have to be quite and accept it. Do not judge me on my faults. do not try to find things wrong aboutme to report to your son. because we are happy. LET US BE HAPPPY. snap your ego in half. and deal. This is our lives. let us be happy. please support us.
haha.. just an idea of what i would say. hope this helps!
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