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Me and my friend cut ourselves... Help?
I want to help her, and I want to help me. How do I stop cutting my arm? She gave me this little metal sharp thing to cut myself; she uses hers too. She did it to help me because it is no sharper than a knife. Help!
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You two honestly shouldn't be around each other if you are both are this unstable... but that is what benefits you. It is true many people who cut do it because they are depressed and feel alone. But you have a friend right there... feeling that same way... why not hang out. talk and vent to each other then both resorting to cutting. And you both should seek professional help, though that rubber band trick does work... alot of cutters will still cut because the rubber band just reminds me of the thrill they feel as if they usually get.
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firstly, you have to distance yourself from her.
secondly, try and find another outlet, like maybe writing poems or lyrics to get your feelings out.
thirdly and most importantly, talk to someone, whether its family, friends or an outsider. chances are the ones close to you already know, but don't know how to approach the subject. you will get through it, but its a long and difficult process. but there is light at the end of the tunnel.
good luck!
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You need to find the source of your cutting to be able to stop. Why are you upset or depressed. Is there a problem with family, friends, image etc.
First off wear a rubber band around your wrist at all time. Snapping the rubber band every time you feel the urge of cutting can stop you from cutting. Next step is to tell your parents. Yes it is the worst part but you need help and so does your friend. I am sure your parents love you and may worry but explain to them that speaking to a counselor could really help you. Maybe look up some stuff about cutting online to show your parents so they understand a little more about it.
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You have taken the first step in stopping the cutting by asking for help. Which is writing to us for help. It is a small step but it is a step in the right direction.
There are many different reasons why people cut. Mostly it is because they are depressed and they want to feel something. What they feel is the endorphins released by the cutting. Until you can get some professional help to get at the root cause of your depression the help I am going to offer is the same that the professionals ask of you. It is called transference.
Instead of cutting what I would like you and your friend to do is go out and find the biggest and thickest rubber bands you can find. Let one of the rubber bands. Hang one loosely from one of your wrists. When you feel the urge to cut, snap the rubber band against your wrist instead.
This is much better than cutting as it release the same amount of endorphins, it is safer and you can do it anywhere. You do not have to run off and find someplace to hide and cut. If you try this I believe you'll find this better than cutting.
Next you have to tell someone other than us that you have a problem and been cutting. That someone should be your parents or it could be a trusted teacher or health aid at school. Your parents are the best choice of who to tell.
So please tell your parents and have them take you to your doctor.
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