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Just had a baby & I don't feel like doing anything
18/f I just had a baby 4 weeks ago I breastfeed & it's so stressful & tiring at times. I don't ever feel like doing anything. I don't want to shower, brush my teeth, talk on the phone, go downstairs to get food or anything. I feel sooo lazy. I don't know what the problem is. I see & feel myself being lazy but I don't change it. Or I say I am & I don't do anything about it. I feel like so lost I feel like life has stopped for me now. I feel so weird & different. Idk how to deal with being a teen mom now it is hitting me I will never be normal. Idk what's my problem .
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Oooookay. I'm no expert on childbirth, but I'm surprised nobody has mentioned this yet.
Have you heard of post-partum depression? It's extremely common. Many women become depressed after childbirth. You should be talking to your doctor about the possibility of you having it, and what treatment options you have.
Other than that, I can tell you from second-hand experience that life is not over. My mother was only a year older than you when I was born. She had no help from relatives, and she and my father were totally broke. She had to drop out of school to look after me. She stuck it out, though, and she's now a very happy mid-40s empty nester with a fantastic career netting over 100 grand a year. My parents are whooping it up because they're free now, when most of their friends' kids are just getting into the toddler/school age stage.
Nobody has a normal life. There's no such thing as a normal life. Everyone meets their own hiccups along the way. You can overcome yours and make your life what you want it to be: don't go thinking that life is over now. You're just doing things out of order. Now you have more reasons to be successful: for yourself and to be a good role model for your baby.
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Just to expand on what I'd said, based on your feedback... depression isn't necessarily just being sad. I get depressed, and sometimes I'm not sad. In some people it manifests in a lack of energy and drive to do things. I know that when I'm depressed, I stop showering, doing laundry, talking to people, etc. That's why I thought I'd mention it. :)
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You are completely normal. Pregnancy, labor and caring for a newborn is the single most difficult thing anyone can do. Your hormones for one are trying to get back to normal and since you are breastfeeding it's going to be awhile. You get no sleep and no breaks, no days off just go go go. Your whole world is about another little soul and everyone talks about the baby and not you. It will get better I promise but it will be awhile. I have a 1,2, and 4 year old boys that DRIVE ME CRAZY. My 1 year old is almost two and I am finally able to sleep through the night. I am getting where I want to dress up and look nice again finaly but I'm still not the same persona as before. It is hard don't let anyone tell you differently. Until someone is in your shoes they won't understand. Take it easy on yourself. Sleep every second you get. Take long hot baths but try and workout as soon as you are all healed up. That helped me a lot! You are not lazy you are exhausted! Hang in there I promise things will get easier :)
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