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We are a couple...and we are trying to get different views
We have been together for a year and a half. I caught him with a tagged account which had numerous conversations where he was flirting with girls. We talked everything over, and he explained that he was not trying to get with the girls. Because I had danced with a guy at a party we went to, he decided to start getting on the website to make himself feel better. To uplift his self esteem. Another reason why he explains he did it was because I always accuse him of wanting sex every time he kisses or touches me. Anyway. He promised to stop with the talking online. Just recently I happened to find another account on Google plus, where he was writing comments on girl's pictures. Initiating that he wanted to talk to them. He says that they never responded to him. They are girls from different states. They are famous (I don't recognize any of them) and he did not do it to cheat or get with them. He understands that I didn't do anything wrong, and that it was wrong for him to do it.He says I push him away when he comes and sees me too much.This hurts him. He says he's had many chances to cheat but he hasn't. He has not cheated on me with girls in real life. He doesn't cheat. Just because he loves me too much and I'm his first love everything that I do hurts him. The online thing is his escape. He feels he can drop it. He did it so it would make him feel good every time he felt like I was going to leave him.He says I'm the only person that can actually make him happy. I think this is very contradictory because if I were, he would not be on there. My plan is to break everything off. I feel disrespected. I feel like I'm not good enough for him and that is the main reason why he did this. Not once, but twice. I count this as cheating. I don't know how else you guys see it. I think it's time to end the whole relationship. I don't even want to try because I feel like he is going to find better ways to keep on with his ways. I think he just needs to find someone that can make him feel happy, and that person is obviously is not me.
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Honestly, I feel that it is cheating. Both physical AND emotional connections with other women are. A personal bit: I dated a guy for a year, I went on a Europe trip, came back and he acted differently. He had been constantly chatting with this girl, and 5 days after I broke up with him, he took her to our favorite spot in the woods and they began dating. I don't trust online chatting because of this. You deserve better than a man who has to go online to pump his ego. He should have never done it in the first place, but after the first time he should have quit cold turkey. The fact that he keeps going back to it is leading me to believe it's beginning to be an unhealthy way to get out his hurt feelings. I support your decision to break it off with him---leave him to his imaginary women so you can find a real man that doesn't need to turn to an online source when he doesn't feel he's getting enough attention from his woman. You go girl!
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