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dissapointment in bed...
I'm a 24year old male and my girlfriend is 21. We're from South Africa. She beautifull, smart, cute, sexual and she really turns me on! We've been dating for 2years and I still get shy when I see her. She can give me a erection just by giving me a hug...wich can be very embarrasingfor me but she loves it.I've never cared and loved someone as much as I do for her. Now my problem only happens now and then, but its still a pain because it feels like I'm letting her down. And I know it bothers her. Sometimes when we busy I can't get myself to orgasm. I struggle to concentrate. And then I start to get axious and start thinking about what she's thinking...if she's enjoying it ex. And then before I know it I'm going limp. And then I try so hard to get it up again but no luck. Then my girl asks me what's wrong... And I can't explain to her because I don't know myself. She says its all in my head...that I'm thinkin to much. And I think she might have a point. I did find that if I have a beer or two it doesn't happen. What do you guys think?
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First relax, your not the first guy to have this problem. Your girlfriend is also correct that the problem is all in your head, so to speak. You are suffering from a form of performance anxiety. You are in essence thinking to much. There should be no reason when to people love each other for either one to have to think about anything put the pleasure they feel and the pleasure the other one is feeling from what they are doing.
When I say thinking about the pleasure your partner is feeling I don't mean it in the way you have been thinking. If your enjoying yourself, she is wet and lubricating for you then she is receiving pleasure as well. If she is a verbal lover you will hear it as well, there is nothing more to think about.
What you can do is communicate better before and or after sex. Find out what she likes, what her fantasy's are. Tell her about yours. There is nothing strange or wrong about anything sexual that happens between two consenting adults in the privacy of ones bedroom. The operative word here is consenting.
My advice is to try communicating better. Relax and enjoy each other. If the problem continues then I suggest you visit a Urologist to see if there may be a physical reason for your situation.
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The best thing for sex is just DONT THINK. Dont think about it. Just do it. Go with the flow. Rela and enjoy it and you'll be fine.
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relax dnt take it seriously bet she dosent.have fun .dnt wry about that.
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