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Bisexual Boyfriend...
Okay... So recently my boyfriend told me he is bisexual. He isn't emotionally attracted to men... It's just physical. I'm still in shock but I support this. He loves me. Nothing will change that. And I love him. What can I do to help ease my mind about this? I don't want him to feel like he can't talk to me about this and I don't want to be the girlfriend that gets upset about it. There isn't anything I can do to change the way he has been most of his life. I just... I donno. Here is what I need advice about. One: Putting my mind at ease. Two: If this has happened to anyone... How long before you became comfortable with it? and Three: Do you think this is just a phase? Will it pass?
Thank you for reading this and thank you in advance for your help!
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One: He's with you and you lvoe him and I'm sure he loves you. If he wanted to be with someone else then he would. It's not any different than if he were to go for another girl. Just be comfortable int eh relationship that you have with one another right now.
Two: This has happened to me before and to tell you the truth when I first heard about it I didn't know what to do. It took me some time to think about it but I realized that it didn't change who he was as a person. I still loved him and he still loved me.
Three: I don't know if I would call it a phase. Don't worry about it too much or it'll mkae you go crazy. Just continue to love him and that he's with you because he cares for you.
Good luck!
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Ask him how much he leans toward women. For example, is he an 80-20 guy when it comes to needing women over men or is he more toward the 50-50 mark? The closer he is to that latter, the more you need to think about ending the relationship.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of ostensibly straight/secretly bisexual guys who develop a fetish for certain homosexual acts and they usually have to express it every now and again. It is a very strong compulsion and is tough to tamp down.
Also, you don't have to tolerate in your own life anything you aren't really down with in your heart. You can only be you and you are the only one who can lead your life. Therefore, it is incumbent upon you to make sure that you can accept something (as opposed to tolerating it merely to be nice or thought of as open minded) wholeheartedly. If you can't, then you really need to contemplate ending it.
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