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I lied to my boyfriend about my age..
So I have been dating this guys for almost a month now and I am beginning to really develope feelings for him. We hang out almost every day and have gone on a number of dates. The only problem is that I told him I was 20 when im really 19. He is 27. I have a fake I.D. so I am still able to go to bars with him where we spend a lot of our time together. I have always hung out with older people and I tell everyone I'm 20. This lie is killing me. Lying about my age has never bothered me before. I have been doing it since I was 15. But every time I'm with him it is all I can think about. I really want to be honest with him but I dont know how he will react. He is looking to settle down and so am I. I am very mature for my age but I feel like he wont take me seriously if he knew I was only 19. I dont know what to do.. any advice?? and I know that I need to tell him but HOW??
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I disagree with the user below me
A year age difference isn't a big deal at all. No, However if you plan on settling down with someone or having a relationship with them then you really need to start being completely honest. Lying, Isn't going to do anything but push them away in the long run when they find out the truth about you. Nobody likes to be lied to nor led on and if you lied from him from the start it will only do nothing but get him to not trust you at all. You may be mature for your age I'm not going to say your not but lying to people isn't a sign of maturity. I would tell him, If you want to save what you two have going better to do it now then never. You could sit down with him and tell him there is something you feel you need to get off your chest and then ya spill it.
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Your real age will make no difference. So don't sweat it. Now if you told him you were 25 THAT would be a problem. But you only told the whitest of white lies. Take note of how you felt about lying and resolve to not do it in the future.
I also have to say this: when I was 27, I went out with a 19 year old. There was such a huge gap in maturity and life experience that it ultimately contributed to the dissolution of the relationship. This may happen with your current relationship, though perhaps not. It just depends on the chemistry and mindsets of the two of you.
By the same token, everyone needs that exploratory part of their life and so getting tied down at 19 is generally a bad idea. Your brain will continue to develop until age 25 and you may not feel the same way at that age that you do now. So take your time with this current relationship, focus on what you can learn from it and then take stock when you're 26 or older and see if you want to get married.
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