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How do I tell my parents about online dating?
18/f
I met a guy through online dating a few weeks back. We really hit it off. He only lives a few miles away from me and shares almost all of the same interests. He also seems extremely sweet! He said that he wants to take me out on a date, and I really want to go. Now, the dating site I met him on does background checks. Obviously he's not a psycho because they let him through. We've also skyped multiple times, so I know he's actually a real person. However, I have a problem. For the time being, I live with my parents instead of in a dorm (for various private family reasons). Because I'm at home, I'm basically under a microscope. My parents are very open, liberal, and accepting- but they're also very nosy. I have no idea how to breech the topic that I met a guy online and want to date him! I don't know how comfortable they'd be with that. I'm an only child, so they're pretty protective. How do I tell them??? Of course I'd be super careful. I'd let them meet him and make sure they think he's "sane." I's also go on dates with him in public places and avoid situations where I could get into trouble. But, as far as I can tell, he's normal and sweet. How do I tell them?
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As you know, meeting men online is very dangerous. They can put on a whole different person online, skype or anything like. But I understand if you want to try it.
If I were you, I would tell him your bringing your friend. For example, tell him your and your girlfriend are going to see a local football team and ask if he wants to join.
Going some place public is always safe because if hes not sane, its not like he would do anything in front of a ton of people, and it will give you the chance to determine if he is "sane" or not.
Going with your friend just gives you back up. Especially if you find out hes a creep.
Now telling your parents is going to be hard though. I totally feel you, because I have been in the same exact situation recently.
However, to tell my parents, I first sat down with my mother, because she is more strict than my father, and told her that I met this guy from a website and he lives really close and I want to meet up with him at the mall. Her immediate answer was no, but once I explained to her that my best friend was also going, who she knew and trusted, she was okay with it.
If you wanted to get really tricky. You could just tell your parent your going with your girlfriend and meet him there. Then later on when you want to go on a date just you and him, you can tell them how you met him a little while ago at a football game with your best friend or something of the such.
Hope this helps!!! :)
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Even though you guys have met on Skype, you should make the first date something low key and in a neutral corner that is not near your house. Meet him at a coffee shop or some other place with lots of people around just so you have more of a chance to vibe him before you decide to get into his car. If you met him at a bar you would have that opportunity. Online, not so much.
Having said that, if your parents are that progressive, the meeting online won't be an issue because so many people do it (my last girlfriend, who I was with for three years, I met online). It's a manifestation of the kind of society we live in nowadays. Your parents are going to worry about you regardless of the medium of introduction anyway.
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You know, I wouldn't tell them.
I met my now Fiance online, his family still don't know how we met (and we've been together for 7 years), I think they just think it was through a mutual friend.
If you really like him, arrange to meet him in a public place like a bar, somewhere with alot of people, (and don't go onto anywhere private afterwards, like his home.) and tell a friend where you are, what time you'll be meeting him, his name, profile details, when to expect you back etc (you can call when you are safe home).
(make sure someone knows, just to be safe).
Then after 3 or 4 dates if you think it's going somewhere you can tell your parents you've met someone. You don't have to give exact details if you don't feel comfortable yet.
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Your 18 right? So you are NOT a kid. But you are living with them, so somewhat you have to do what there rules said to do because this is there home.
How did you tell them? You can say something like this: Hey Mom hey Dad(tell who ever you feel more close to first. You don't have to tell them together. That's up too you)I met this guy online. And we want to date. We have already seen each other. And you CAN met him if you'd like. I want to know what you think of him.
DON'T say anything like this: but if you don't like him....well to bad because I'm going to date him anyway!!! This is a No-no. And try not to say stuff like "um". Saying stuff like "um" is bad because they will know you really don't know what to say or your not sure of you self. They might see a way to get what ever they want using YOU. Good luck.
P.S.
Here is in other way to tell them:
I met this guy online. We meat offline too. He seem nice. And I'd like to date him. But I want to see what you think of him first. Will you met him please?
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