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what do i do when the only way out I can see is to kill myself? Nobody listens to me
im havin a hard time in my life and the only way i see out is to kill myself no one listins to me im unhappy the people around me make me happy but thats just not enof i need to talk i heard if u talk about ur feelins they go away but no one listins to me i cut myself because it takes away the pain but only for a little while in 16 and nothing to show for my life so far if you where to ask anyone who know me to name one thing in good at they wouldnt replay because they know and so do i im a failure i know it every one knows it
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You say you have nothing to show for your life so far but 16 years is nothing, most of it was taken up by school and childhood. You say you are 16, an age when most people have altered feelings and emotions. Hormones are raging and those around you, in school or whatever, may be in a similar state, adding to the strain.
Give yourself chance - I'm 50 plus and would be hard pushed to say I'm good at anything or done anything particularly notable with my life. Nevertheless, I've had a good life, married with children, worked hard in a good job, have a college degree, enjoy many interests with many friends. Is this a life wasted?
Look around you, what does the lives of those around you say about them? What do you want your life to say about you?
Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life. Will it be the same as yesterday? Only you can change it.
Good luck, let me know what you decide? I'd love to know.
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What I do for recreation is I am a member of a volunteer rescue Squad which is part of the county fire department. It is a rather strange recreational activity but it allows me a break form the norm which is the definition of recreation.
The downside of this, call it a hobby for now, is I unfortunately, have met to many people who feel as you do. By to many the number could be 1 or it could be 1001 the number doesn't matter. What matters is you. You're 16 and you really haven't yet had a chance at life to be so down on yourself to want to end your life.
I do understand how you feel and why you feel as you do. Please trust me when I say things can and will get better. There is no way you can be a failure at 16. You say you are happy around people. I understand this, we all are happiest when we can interact with others.
Right now you are depressed and you have some valid reasons for being so, some of them you are not even aware of. Your a teenager and society places a lot of stress on teenagers today. Stress that they really do not need at this time as they are dealing with the internal stressors brought on by puberty.
All teenagers go through this. Some handle it better than others. When you add the external stressors such as being told things like, "act your age," "you need to start thinking about college," you need to get better grades if you want to get into a good college and this is usually followed by, "your old enough to get a job so get one".
Have I come close to some of what your experiencing. If I have you are not a failure you are suffering from teenage depression and this is something doctors can treat. By treating your depression they will also be helping with your cutting for as the fog of depression lifts your cutting will stop.
The worst thing about depression is we see things all wrong. This is why you feel like a failure when you really are not. Depression causes us to perceive things wrong. The deeper your depression the worse you will perceive things.
You do not need parental permission to ask for help. what I would like you to do is go to a phone and dial 911 or the emergency number for where you live. Tell the call taker you have been cutting yourself and are thinking of ending your life. They will stay on the phone with you until help arrives.
The help sent will be the police and fire rescue. Someone like me will come in to talk with you and take you to a safe place where you can get help. The police are there to help you not hurt you. They are not going to arrest you. If it is like where I live the police will give you a choice of riding with them or in the ambulance with the firefighters to the hospital, whichever is more comfortable for you.
You've taken the first step, which is the biggest step by writing to us. Now take the next step and call for help.
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Hello I just want to say that you have alot going on in your life and its not time to end it now. Please dont. There are people in this world that really do love you. You may not think that there are people that listen to you but they are there. You may just not realize it. You have alot of good things to come. I dont know when but everyone has something good to come. If there is someone just 1 person that you can trust I say go to that 1 person and talk to them. I mean id love to help you and I would love to listen to you because I love to listen and help others but I only know you through your question. All I have to say is please dont try that your 16 probably very beautiful, very smart, and alot of other great things like that. If you need to talk to someone I suggest going to your school counsilor and talking to her/him. They will help you because that is what they are there for. I hope you diside the right thing and that is to enjoy your life and be happy.
Just remember there are people out there that love to listen and thay do love you.
Im here for you if you need anything thind else.
Remember stay happy :D
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You're still here so obviously you have no real desire to die or you wouldn't have asked for help. You're 16-years-old and have the whole world and a lifetime ahead of you to achieve things you never knew you could.
Your problem is your mental health and being severely depressed or worse. That's what causes you to cut yourself and the suicidal thoughts. That and nothing else.
If you did the right thing and visited an emergency room and told them that you have these thoughts they will have the on-call psychiatrist assess you, diagnose the problem and give proper treatment.
Eventually, those thoughts would disappear and you could enjoy life. You can't see that now but if you went and got help tonight it would restore your life as well as make it better in many ways.
Don't worry about the hospital either. Sure, nobody wants to be there but it will save your life. You will get the proper diagnosis, treatment, medication, counseling and support network set-up. You would be assessed over 72 hours and only be held longer if they know you would harm yourself. Essentially, you get to rest in a safe environment while professionals sort your life out.
I'm sure there are a lot of people who care deeply for you. They probably do listen but the mental disturbance works to tell you otherwise and those thoughts convince you. The same deal with being a failure. I know having been worse as you were that if you get help you`ll enjoy life and excel in the long run. Tell someone what`s happening or go to an emergency room on you own because it`s a crisis situation if you really have thoughts of killing yourself that you might act upon.
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