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How do i get help to STOP cutting?
Im 13. How can i tell my family im a cutter? And once i tell them, how do i get help to STOP cutting?
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You have taken the most important step in how to stop hurting yourself by asking for help, even if it is from strangers. The next steps get easier.
Children cut themselves for a variety of reasons. For the most part they are trying to get attention that generally does not come. The second most often given reason is to feel something.
What I would like you to do while you find someone to tell that can help you is to do what some doctors suggest. It is called transference. I would like you to find a big rubber band and slide it loosely over your wrist. Next time you feel like cutting yourself, snap the rubber band against your wrist instead until the desire to cut goes away. This will work if you give it a try and really put the same thought into it that you put into cutting.
Know how to get help? Who to ask?
If you cut as a means to get attention and didn't get the attention from your parents you want or wanted. Don't take that as meaning your parents don't care. As a parent we have trouble understanding and remembering what it was like to be a teenager. We are very quick to write off moodiness in our teenagers as a fact of puberty that hopefully will pass sooner rather than later.
If you will not talk to us we can't help you. We get as frustrated with you as you get with us. Our frustration is just a little different than yours. We are not mad at you, we are frustrated because we know you are hurting and just don't know why and therefore don't know what to do.
If we try and talk to our children it usually ends up in a no win situation. So we sit and eat ourselves up over this hoping you will come to us and ask us for help or tell us what the problem is. So talk to mom, dad an Aunt or Uncle or one of your grandparents. The conversations starts with; I need help, I've been cutting myself.
If for some reason you feel you can't talk to a family member then find a trusted teacher to talk to. Your teachers, school principals and guidance councilors are all trained to help you. The conversation starts with the same 7 words.
Please trust me when I say you are not alone. There is help for you. You just have to take the next step. You have taken the hardest step by admitting you have a problem. The next ones' get easier.
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I cut when I was 13 too... it was addicting and hard to stop but when I prioritized what was important to me and busied myself I didn't feel the need anymore.
The main reason I did it was for attention. One day I couldn't stand it anymore that no one had noticed (I wasn't obvious about it at all) so I finally blew up and told my mom all about it. She was so understanding and helped me through it. Is there someone in your family you can talk to like that? A sibling? An aunt or uncle or parent?
Another thing to keep in mind is that you don't have to tell your entire family... you can just tell one member that you trust. However many you want, really.
I got help by going to a counselor. I just felt soo much better! I hated the idea at first but four years later I'm still seeing her and it's a great relationship to have as you get older and your problems and surroundings change. Trust me.
I will pray for you so God can help you every step of the way... I've been there!
Hope this Helped!
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