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What's the best way to initiate?
As a guy, sometimes I have trouble initiating sex, but mainly when asking for something only for myself.
My girlfriend has no trouble with oral sex, she isn't grossed out by it, and she says she likes making me feel good. We've been together for a year, and normally she has to initiate this.
We have slightly different libidos, so there are times she'd rather give oral than have full on sex with me, or during her period.
Sometimes I end up feeling selfish when it's only me getting pleasured and she isn't in the mood for it, which is one reason why I have trouble asking her for it. People have said "just be direct and ask," but there is literally no romance in that.
Is there any good way to ask her for oral sex when I am wanting some, or any indirect way of showing her that I want it? Also, I'm not going to push her head down or do anything that direct or degrading.
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Make advances towards her. Let her know how you're feeling.
I can usually tell when my partner wants it by the things he does, the way he looks at me, kissing me and it starts to get hot and heavy, travelling hands, etc. Evidently hes aroused.
Whether I'm in the mood for full on sex or not I'll still give him oral because thats what he enjoys - even more so than penetrative sex. And if we're not having full on sex I'll try to make it extra special.
So let her know how youre feeling through affection. When youre both getting in to it guide her hand and then lean back. She'll get the message.
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There's no other way than asking for it, there can be romance in asking for it, but ask indirectly, imply it rather than ask.
For Example:
"Babe, I love how good you are at oral."
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"I was just thinking about how good you make me feel when you [insert dirty deed here]"
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