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Why do all guys like me at the beginning and then think of me as a sister?
I've always been the type to have mostly guy friends. I do extreme things and I don't freak and say "OMG! I soooo just broke a nail!"
When I first meet a guy, they would say that they'd like to date me. Not even a month later, they end up saying that they think of me as a little sister. Honestly, I don't have a problem with that. I like being thought of in a sisterly way but sometimes I start to wonder why guys don't ever want to date me after they get to know me. Could it possibly be because I act too much like a guy when I'm around them because I'm around guys all the time?
When I was growing up I was pretty much a tomboy. and not until I was 12 or so did start acting even the slightest bit girly. I am 18 now and I'm always just seen as one of the guys or like a sister to guys. the only people who are ever interested in dating me turn out to be really bad people and I'm wondering if it's me? I have a good heart and all D: my guy friends say I'm pretty(though I don't take compliments) I play guitar and piano, I am a gamer chick, love movies, very considerate and always trying to make other people smile and laugh. I just don't understand what I'm doing wrong that "nice guys" are never interested in me?
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First, if you could age about 30 years overnight you sound like my kind of girl. In fact, you kinda sound like one of my exes. I don't date anyone under 40, though. Maybe they think you look too masculine? Wear skirts that are above the knee and halter tops.
Also, some guys just don't like loud chicks, if that describes you. I personally think it's a total turn on that you play piano and guitar myself. The "I do extreme things" item maybe part of the problem. They may not necessarily be into that.
As for the general "nice guys," they are sometimes pussies and often don't have the self esteem to handle someone like you. They could be afraid of being shown up by you because you know guys have to feel like they're top dog all the time.
Look, you gotta be you and let the chips fall where they may. To try to be something you're not is to punch a first class ticket on the railroad of neuroses. When you get to college, you will be dealing with full grown MEN and not boys. So my advice is for you to remain true to yourself and to not fall in with a bad crowd because you're feeling lonely. Conceding to your emotions will always kill you.
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the problem with guys is that their masculinity gets in the way of their brains. you sound like a great girl on paper, but those girls that say "OMG" and scream a lot? they look attractive to guys because then its a chance for guys to protect them. guys like girls that are cute and flirty. and the girls like you that enjoy fun activities and share numerous interests with the guys end up being just "one of the guys". and theres nothing wrong with this. next time a boyfriend is mean to you, guess who has your back?
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