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How and when to break up with my boyfriend
14/f
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 4 months, and I want to break up with him simply because I don't like him in that way anymore. I haven't for the past month. Whenever he kisses me now, I get seriously disgusted and want to avoid more kissing at all costs. The problem is, my and this guy have been really good friends for about two years now and I do not want to lose him as a friend. He is so sweet and nice and I don't want to hurt him, but the feeling just isn't there for me anymore. But he thinks nothing has changed, because nothing has changed! I'm worried he's going to be totall shocked because there has been nothing leading up to this, no fade out. How do I break up with him so that we can still be friends? And do you think this will shock him because I really don't think he has any idea what's coming, he texted me that he loved me tonight and I feel so bad. Also, I only see him at lunch at school and I don't want to text the breakup to him but I don't want to arrange a date because he will get excited (and text me about the, um, stuff we're going to do that involves kissing- he always does that before dates.) But I don't want to destroy his day halfway through school. When should I do it? And I feel terrible, I don't want to hurt him.
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There isn't really any good way or right time to break up with someone but it's better to do it sooner than later so you're not stringing them along. If you aren't able to catch him at school just tell him you need to get together (don't make it sound like a date). It may be hard but you just have to suck it up and tell him. It's hard on both parts because you're unhappy and he doesn't know you don't feel the same way. Even if you want to stay friends it may or may not happen but if it does it won't right away which is best because it seems he has stronger feelings and he may need time to get over everything.
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Unfortunately after a serious relationship, or sometimes even semi-serious relationships, it is extremely rare that a friendship is maintained. Catch him after school & explain to him that you feel you need to focus more on self-discovery and you think you need some time to think things over. Say you don't want to be in a relationship with him right now because it doesn't quite feel right. You don't have to be specific. While he will probably be somewhat surprised, it's worse if you lead him on longer. Explain to him that his friendship is precious to you and it means the world to your social life... but that you need him to understand what you need right now.
Hope I helped... sorry there's no easy answer! God bless & good luck :)
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catch him after school and tell him you really like him you just wanna be friends and thats all. give it some time, before u become just his friend because he mite need a few weeks to process the breakup and make sure to tell him that he can find someone els because he is so fabulous! and just do it sweetly and slowly. because breaking up is really hard but its not like your first few boy friends are going to turn into husbands or anything so u have to do it some time :) hope it goes well and my advice helped
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