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Am I Being Unreasonable?
I am a 56 year old woman. My husband, who is from another country, is 60 and unemployed. A little over 2 years ago one of his adult sons came over to stay. I filed the son's initial immigration paperwork. We are overdue to file the remainder. I have been after my husband to get the supporting documents together since I work during the week. The son suffers from depression. Due to my meager salary and the rising cost of living, I cannot afford his medication and feel my husband should at least seek part time employment. If not for anything else, but to pay for his son's medication. I should mention my house, humble as it is, is paid for. I pay all the bills and find it hard to keep going. Not to mention that I have some health issues (open heart surgery 12 years ago and a Chronic Fatigue Syndrome diagnosis). My husband does the majority of the housework while I do a few things. I consider my weekends my "recovery time". If the roles were reversed and I was living in his country with one of my adult children I would not wait for him to ask me to help out financially. Am I wrong? If it were just the two of us, it would not be a problem.
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I'm not up on immigration law but if you do not complete the process and his visa has run out I would think your step-son is now in the country illegally. Depressed or not he should find away to complete the process or he could face deportation.
I also agree with you that if your husband is capable of working then he should look to find some type of work; even part-time work. In most areas part-time jobs are plentiful and pay slightly above minimum wage to about $10.00 an hour maybe more. If your husband were to find a job paying $10.00 an hour and worked 20 to 30 hours a week that should cover the incidental expenses you are incurring for your step-son.
I would suggest you and your husband talk about this issue. While your at it you need to tell your husband that there is a good chance his son could be deported if you do not file for an extension on the paperwork and finish the process.
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