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PLEASE READ...complicated love triangle
so there are these two guys i've been friends with for a few yrs now, and there my best guy friends. for both relationships it started out as a friendship and still is...but latley i've been noticing that whenever another girl talks to them i get jealous and mad, and get realy excited when they wanna sit with me. the problem is...their both ex-bfs of 2 popular girls. one of them im friends with and sit at lunch with, the other i used to be friends with, but she doesnt sit with us. as it is, those two girls are very good friends (not bffs but goof friends) i know the one i used to be friends with would act like she doesnt care but would make a big deal about it by crying, they broke up last winter, their still friends, but i dont think he has the same connection with her. but then again if im not friends with her why do i care? the other guy is so nice like the other and good looking, but i dont know how my friend would be about it...since they went out several times, but havent dated for a long time. back to the other guy he hasnt dated anyone since his ex..the girl im not friends with..especially with him it makes me mad that i can only be friends with him now becasue i dont just want to jump right into it. i think he likes me too, and im differnt in the way im not crazy loud like his ex was, and im just like the girl who talks about memories and crazy shit, theres just something more between us. i dont know what to do...obviously first i want to make sure im confident enough to persue this with the girl knowing, if i go out with the guy i like more which is the guy with the ex that im not friends. one because we have common intrests, low key, funny, friendly and humorous, and like each other...please help thank youuuu
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Well, with the guy that you like more, forget his ex because you're not even friends with her and if she starts drama, that is her own problem and not yours.
Then with the other guy, you're friends with his ex, so if anything were to happen between the two of you, you should talk to her first.
Honestly, if you like these guys and they're good guys and great friends then do what you want.
I mean I know you want to spare people's feelings but the only ones you need to watch for is your friends. Other than that, what other people say or start drama about doesn't even matter because you'll be happier and they'll have no life but to talk about you.
Just work at it slowly and see where it goes.
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Dear PLEASE READ...complicated love triangle,
The element of wind is on your side. I am told to tell you that you feel threatened. You appear threatening to others. You fear cruelty, judgment and pain. You feel a sense of anger and there is a desire to go into seclusion; but this is no time for withdraw. You must enter the world and atone. Embrace love and you'll discover freedom.
The Roman Goddess of good luck is encouraging you as well. She talks of satisfaction and winning surrounding your choice.
Listen to the elements. Follow your intuition. Yes, your choice to become more than friends with the one you like is the right choice. Yes, you will be a threat to the other girls, but that is life. Change is the name of the game. You cannot change if you do not step out of your comfort zone and grow. You will discover freedom through choosing love. Do not be afraid. Do not hide from your choices either.
Let the other girls know that you do not intend to hurt anyone, so out of respect you will tell them the news yourself. If they love you and are real friends, they will be happy for you. If they get mad, then they have a problem, not you. From the sounds of it, no one has claim to the guy you like. He is not married or dating anyone right? He is fair game!
The reason you have doubts is because you do not want to hurt anyone and you do not anyone mad at you. Too Bad!!
You cannot have your cake and eat it too. You will chose love and you will cause someone a little a bit of discomfort. They will get over it in time. After all they are not dating so it is not like you are sneaking around and trying to steal him.
You are doing the honorable thing when you choose love. Forgiveness is the key to love. Your true friends will see that and bless your relationship with the guy you like. If they cannot see forgiveness, they are not your true friends.
Good Luck!
DoktorTammy
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