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Why is it so hard?
Well, I'm Male-16. I have never really had a girlfriend. School just started. I get tired of seeing guys and their girlfriends on the bus or in the halls. Finding a girl that actually likes me seems to be near impossible. What is it? I see some of the idiots with their girlfriends and think, "Why the hell....?" I mean there's like no girls interested in me. Yet these guys who act tough and are all cocky and think they're invincible have girlfriends. I kind of have no life, but I get good grades and come up with things that are outside the box. Its like nobody can see what I'm capable of and what know. It is so annoying when I talk to a girl and she just doesn't know what I'm talking about. It seems nowadays girls are obsessed with texting, TV shows, phones, and useless stuff like that. I rarely ever watch TV, and I rarely carry my phone. I like talking about bigger things. Like conspiracy theories, science, spiritual stuff, politics, etc. All the girls I meet don't care about any of that.I rarlyMeet smart grl
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As a girl myself, I can tell you that unfortunately we are often drawn to those tough, cocky guys even when we find them a bit ridiculous. Honestly? I think it's down to confidence. You need to be confident but not overly so.
You say that you 'kind of have no life' - well believe me, I know how that is as I'm in the same position at the moment, and the thing is, having 'no life' and keeping yourself to yourself stops you from meeting people and is a great hinderance to your love life.
I know that it can be difficult to start socialising and going out, because as I say, I'm trying to get myself to do the same at the moment, and as an introvert who has lost ties with friends, I mostly prefer to spend my time alone. I'm guessing it might be the same for you. However, you really need to do so. Do you have many friends? If you do, make an effort to hang out with them more. If not, try to make friends with acquaintances. Speak to people in your classes. Try and go to any parties you hear about. Join clubs. It may seem off topic, but doing these things will get you out there and you'll be more likely to meet girls in the first place.
Now, I'm going to be straight with you, I don't know you but what you have written here comes off as a bit snobby and narrow-minded. I understand that you're interested in topics such as politics and science, and you don't feel as if anyone else is, but do not assume that none of these girls you know aren't smart - plenty of girls who spend their time talking about things such as texting/tv shows are smart. The thing is, most people are smarter, more interesting and more deep than they appear. People are often scared to show these more true sides of themselves and so conversation tends to stay lighter.
I'm mentioning this because I think one of the reasons you might not be getting far with girls is because you're dismissing them before you get to know them - understand that there is most likely more beneath the surface and try to get to know girls before deciding they're not right for you. Take it slowly, though - if you start asking a girl a bunch of deep questions, she may be freaked out. You say that you talk to girls about the things you're interested in? I'd suggest starting out on lighter topics, because this means they'll be more comfortable with you - then maybe bring up things such as theories or politics, then more personal things. Talking in class about what you're currently studying could be a good idea, too.
Also, if you join clubs in things you are interested in, you may be more likely to find girls who are interested in the same topics.
I hope it goes well for you, and don't hesitate to message me if you want anymore advice!
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Ok sweety, to be blunt here, you're not like the boys at your school and the girls you know don't represent the entire female population.
And here's a secret theres a huge gap between 16 and the early 20's, when a girls 16 she wants the popular bad-boy type to live the life of the girls on tv, but in a few years time, you'll be so high up the social ladder the very same girls will be wishing they paid you attention, and you will be meeting smart girls with the same interests at college/university, you just have to put yourself out there.
My final little piece of advice is this, I just turned 19 and until earlier this year I had never had a boyfriend/kiss/hug or anything like that, it's not rare and nothing to be ashamed of, 16 is an age to have fun with friends, not be worrying about relationships, trust me at that age it's just not worth it, wait to meet the right girl and keep being you until you find her and remember, she doesn't have to be smart like you want, she could like you for you and be nothing like you expect, just be open minded to people and be friendly and if they ask you about your interests tell them little things, rather than a whole novel :) the more these girls talk to you the more they'll like you. be patient, everything happens for a reason after all ;)
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