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i am in love with him but is it fine to tell him?
I have known my boyfriend for about six months. Before going out, we talked constantly and got to know each other very well. He is pretty much my best friend. I fell pretty hard for him a month ago and I just like him a lot and now that we've been official for a good week now, I am pretty stoked. There is no doubt that I am in love. Thing is, I wanna tell him... But I feel like I will scare him away and it's too soon. He and I go well together but I don't wanna mess things up. What do you think? Is it acceptable to be in love with someone you've known for a while even if you've been dating a very short time? I really like him and I just wanna tell him everything but I am scared.
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I wouldn't tell him you love him. Guys need to feel like they've made a conquest. There needs to be an effort on his part to attain what he feels is worth attaining. If you let on that your in love with him, then there is no effort necessary on his part. He will probably lose interest. Guys are like that. It's quite natural to them. He will be more intrigued by you if you are not too available.
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I think the only way you will scare him away is if you know he doesn't feel the same way as you. As you said, you have known him for several months now, so I don't see that as a problem. Though, if you still feel unsure, I would ask him 'how do you feel when you are around me?' Or after having a good day together, say 'I hope everyday will be like this with you'. How he responds to those comments will let you know how he would feel about you dropping the L word. If he says he enjoys everyday with you, that he cares about you, or something along those lines, I trust he will appreciate you telling him.
I think you should do what your heart feels is right. If your bf loves you the way you love him, he will have no problem with your feelings And it will likely bring you closer. I also believe that love does take time, but when the heart feels certain things and has the right knowledge of another person, it could definately be love after only a short amount of time; Simular to 'love at first sight'. Once you are content he is at the same place as you, it will be completely okay to let him know. And if you still feel unsure after talking with him/going through your thoughts... follow your heart, it will lead you where you want to go.
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