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Annoying friend.
Well, I'm back again. But this time not with a relationship/sex question. I started college on Sunday, woo! So far, it's all going fairly smoothly. Except this one girl is REALLY annoying me. At first I thought she was cool, she hung out with me and some of my friends so now she's part of the group, I guess. But over the week, I've realized how truly freaking annoying of a human being she is. I'm sorry, I'm trying not to be mean but it's awful. She constantly knocks on my door when it's closed and asks to come in. Then she continues to just sit on my floor and Skype her friends with me in the background of the screen. It's awkward to listen to be "part" of their conversation. Then she asks to watch movies all night because my roommate and I watched one the night before, so suddenly she needs to be included. Even explaining that I have an 8 AM class does not shut her up. And she's asking in front of her friend on Skype so it's even more awkward. Then if my door is open, she'll just come barging in and make herself at home.
And I understand people have issues sometimes. I don't know if she has OCD or a twitch, but every ten seconds this girl is scrunching her face up and closing her eyes. It's a horrible, annoying habit.
Not to mention her obsession with the upperclassmen soccer players on the floor above us. She practically cried because she thought they were moving out because "their beds were all striped down"....turns out they were doing their laundry. She's crazy.
All in all, she is the "annoying friend" we all have. I've tried to tolerate her, but I feel like my space is always invaded by her. Right now she is at dinner, thank God. I just don't want to be her friend but I don't know what to do?! Technically, she's part of my circle of friends and also the roommate of one of my friends. I'm going to talk to my roommate tonight and see if she feels the same about this girl, but it really seems like nobody else is bothered by her. Maybe we're all in my position and just too cowardly to speak up because we just got here.
Please help! What do I do? I don't want to spend the next four years, or even next year having to pretend I like this girl.
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What an awful situation! Having been there, I can attest to the fact that sometimes people like her have no idea what they are doing is annoying the crap out of people. I would go ahead and talk to the person you were going to check with and see how she feels about it, but be advised, she may run right to the annoying friend and tell her you were talking behind her back. There is always that risk.
Beyond that, if you find out that you aren't the only one who is being annoyed, then I would talk to the girl and tell her exactly what is bothering you. Ask her to respect your space, and your time schedule. When you tell her you have to be ready at 8am, she needs to respect that and get out.
As far as the face scrunching thing, it sounds like you are just being petty. If she has a twitch she can't control, then that is what it is. How would you feel if someone came to you and said: "Your face annoys me."
There is plenty to be addressed here without picking on her physically. Boundary issues: She has them.
Good luck straightening her out, if you choose to.
If you sever ties, you make take some lumps from other people, but leaving her in your life without her developing some respect will drive you to the point where YOU will be scrunching your face every 10 seconds. ;-)
She does sound nuts, and she will drive you the same direction if something isn't done.
Nice to have friends, but better to have your sanity.
Good luck.
P.S. There are over 70,000 users here. Please, if you want to ask me a question, that is great, but you can't come after me to answer them when I am busy. The second one you asked, you asked again not even 10 hours later. Please, in the future, ask questions to me, AND the general pool if you are in a hurry. Thank you.
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