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My boyfriend can't ejaculate
Oh my god! Is the condom thing true? I didn't know that, seriously. I'm on birth control, but my mother always said to use condoms anyways to prevent that kind of stuff. But I was unaware that condoms don't even fully protect against STDs. Luckily for me, I plan to only ever sleep with someone I love and trust. I don't understand the mentality of hook ups. This guy is the only one I've ever slept with.
Sadly, it is a bit too late to have this talk with him. We saw each other for the last time two nights ago, but I will be back for winter break. I did ask him if there was something I was doing wrong to prevent him from being pleasured, and he assured me that was untrue. I wish he could get a day or two off here and there, but not necessarily for my own purposes. I agree with you entirely that he's working himself crazy. Unfortunately it's not really an option with his job to reschedule his week.
You're also right that I should be telling him all this. And I did, I told him that I was worried that I was the problem, but he gave me the answer I was looking for and I feel better. I want to make his life happier and better by being a part of it, not more demanding than it already is. But I also enjoy talking to you just because you have a very good perspective on the situation and helped me a lot! I think I'll go make an account to keep in touch because I'm sure college will bring many challenges. Thank you.
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Hi there,
Yes, the condom thing is true. This has a lot to do with why herpes and HPV are a literal plague. :-(
For YEARS people have been telling kids that as long as they wear a condom they are golden. Not even close.
Even if you discount the condom failure rate, which as the owner of this website, I can tell you I have seen legions of people pass through with failure stories, you still have the most important part: Condoms do NOT cover your entire body!
Ready to look stupidity right in the face? Here we go:
Someone has herpes. Their outbreaks, in this case, let us say it happens on their inner thigh... there are people STILL telling kids they can't catch herpes from this person... because they are using a condom!
Hello! The condom isn't covering the herpes! Reality check calling, answer the phone please?
If you can't tell, this makes me furious.
Glad to hear you aren't going to be the new campus hook-up girl, by the way. One suggestion in that regard: Don't drink.
You will run into people that will do their best to get you plastered so they can have their way with you. Your best bet is to avoid that crowd.
IF you go to a party, I would like to give you the same advice I would give a daughter I was sending off to college:
Drink only from sealed containers. Do not drink from bottles. Cans only.
Do not let anyone else open the can for you.
Keep the drink in your sight at all times until you are done with it.
If you set a drink down, forget about it and come back... throw it away and go get a new, sealed, can.
Why? Safety seals on bottles are easy to open in a way that will make it look like it has never been opened. There are even websites out there that tell people how to do this to drug other people at parties.
An aluminum can makes it just this side of impossible for anyone to tamper with your drink. If you take the further step of cleaning the top of the can before you open it, there is very little anyone can sneak by you.
If you think I am making too big a deal about that... I am not. The stories of drug induced rape are so common now that people don't even react to it with horror anymore.
If you go to a party, and you don't follow through on what I wrote up there, you will eventually regret it, I am sorry to say.
I don't know how many questions I have seen on here from women who woke up in a strange place, with, or without any clothing, and had been raped to the point they could hardly stand.
And what can they tell the police? "I went to a party. I had a cup of orange juice, cause I don't drink... and I woke up behind a dumpster 30 miles away 10 hours later."
Having said all that, if you actually use college as a learning device, it can be a great experience with few regrets, other than student loans.
The loans themselves aren't anything to regret, unless you are going to college without a firm decision on what you want to study... then you are asking for trouble.
I hope things calm down for your boyfriend. From what little you have expressed her, he sounds like a pretty good guy.
Wish you guys had had a chance to work this out and maybe get him a day off before you left, but as you mentioned, you will be back for break... and you can make it up to him then.
I am glad for whatever help I have been, and I hope you have a good time at school.
DN.
P.S. I went ahead and assigned your questions to your account, so that you will be more easily able to locate them in the future.
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