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My boyfriend can't ejaculate
Thank you for answering my question about my boyfriend's problem. I feel better knowing that being tired can actually the reason why. But I just felt the need to clear something up...
I'm not some money-hungry girlfriend that he needs to please. In fact, we're more like friends with benefits but I didn't feel like explaining the whole story when all I wanted to know was why he couldn't cum, so I just called him my boyfriend in the post. You see, we dated last year and broke up but now we are back together unofficially. We only see each other once every other week or so. Our relationship definitely isn't about the money, because I have a full time job myself working 40 hours a week. The reason he works so much is because his dad is a crazy abusive man that charges his 18 year old son $750 in rent a month and also makes him pay for all his own clothes and food, plus he just bought his own car finally and has been fixing it up. Sorry if I came across as rude, but I just wanted you to know that by far I am not a money-hungry bitch.
Again, thank you for the advice. I did feel hurt that he couldn't cum, because I felt like it was something about me or something I was doing wrong because being tired didn't seem like a legitimate reason. But you cleared that up for me, so thank you.
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Hi there,
No problem at all. We only get to go on the info that is included, and because you didn't seem to understand that working the equivalent of 2 full time jobs plus an extra 15 hours every week would be hard... I thought you had never worked a day in your life. Hope you understand where a person might think that.
If, at any time, you think this is an excuse... ask yourself how you would do, if you worked 16 hours a day, 6 days a week. That is 96 hours.
Plus you have time to get ready, travel time... so basically 18 hours a day. All of the rest of life needs to happen in 6 hours... including sleep.
I am glad you aren't what your first question made you look like, but it still appears you are extremely insensitive to his well being, as you didn't think 18 hours total per day might be enough to make him too tired for sex.
Insisting on sex when he really needs to sleep is going to make him resent the hell out of you.
If you made a fuss about this, you should apologize, or this could be the end of the relationship. Nobody wants to be with someone who comes across as insensitive, needy and self absorbed.
That may not be who you are, but it is the impression you give by doing this.
Some day you will understand this. Maybe you will take a salaried position (don't EVER do this!) or have a couple kids... then you will understand what it is like to get by on a very small amount of sleep while putting in 16 hour days.
When you get there, I hope you can think back on this time and say something like: "OMG I can't believe I was pushing him for sex!"
In truth, it is a miracle he can get an erection at all.
By the way, it sounds like his dad is an ass.
I appreciate you taking the time to read that answer and respond.
And, now it is my turn, as I have been up 20 hours, to go get some rest. :-)
Good luck to both of you.
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