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My boyfriend can't ejaculate
I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend will be 19 years old next month. We have been together since last summer and never had problems with sex before. He has always been able to cum with 15 minutes, but all of a sudden in the past few weeks, he can't seem to finish at all. e. At first he feels like he can, but then for some reason he just loses it. I'm not sure why? He says he doesn't know why it keeps happening, that he's just tired. Granted, he does work 95 hours a week but I doubt that has anything to do with our sex life. What could be the cause of this sudden problem? I feel like it's somehow my fault. Actually, his entire sex drive seems off. He's an 18 years old guy, shouldn't he be jumping at the chance to have sex? He just never seems to be in the mood anymore and it actually kind of hurts my feelings.
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You have a boyfriend who is working 95 hours a week and your concerned he is too pooped to pop. I'll address that further down.
First, a nineteen year old working that many hours a week either has excellent work ethics or for some reason is desperate need for money. Realize that in a 7 day period there are 168 hours. If you BF sleeps 8 hours a day, which is 56 hrs, this leaves 12 hours to commute between jobs and to be with you. Your boyfriend probably sleeps less than 8 hours more like 6 hrs a day if he is lucky, which is 42 hrs, leaving 26 hrs for commuting, eating, showering , making love to you and other things he may need or want to do.
Now that I have put this into some prospective for you; can you possibly see why your boyfriend may be too pooped to pop. Yes he is young and he may be able to stand this type of working hours for a while. Eventually these working hours will take a toll on his health, it always does. It may already be starting to show in his sex life with you. You might try to convince him to have a physical check up before he has a total collapse.
Instead of complaining and thinking he is lying or you are not sexy enough for him; why not try to help him? You might want to ask him why he needs to work so many hours. Then help him find ways to achieve the reason with out ruining his health in the process.
The simple answer to your question is: Your boyfriend is working to hard. He needs to slow down and rest before he does himself serious physical harm. You should be trying to help him rather than worry about his lack of a sex drive and your hurt feelings. Your feelings can recover. His sex drive should recover if he slows down and rests.
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You found a guy that works 95 hours a week, and you don't believe him when he tells you that he is "too pooped to pop?"
It is true, that kind of fatigue is a mood killer. All you want to do is sleep. You can take offense if you want, but you are only making things worse by doing so.
From experience: You can be too tired for sex. 18 or not. As far as you feeling hurt, well... don't. The single most beautiful woman on earth would get the same reaction from someone who is working 95 hours a week, plus travel time, plus prep time, etc.
He is telling you the truth. Instead of making it all about you, maybe it would de-stress him a bit if you found ways to shorten his workday, or convince him that you aren't so money-hungry that he can take another job that doesn't mean working himself into an early grave.
Odds are, he isn't working that job for fun... he is working it to make you happy.
Sometimes that can be self defeating, like it is here.
If he is a work-a-holic, and this isn't caused by him feeling like if her stops working for one second he won't have enough money to keep you happy, then you need to tell him... what you told us here, and see about toning things down a bit on the work schedule.
I admire his work ethic, and I hope that you will too, once you realize how rare it is.
Good luck to both of you.
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